Would you rather be the rejecter or rejectee?

Are those words? Do you know what I'm talking about? Getting rejected is really awful. I'd still rather get rejected than have to reject someone. I suppose the way most of us reject someone is by ignoring calls and e-mails, right? I can't do that. I suppose I would just wait longer to return calls and send shorter e-mails hoping things would tail off.

I really thought I would never have to worry about this. I seem to be a total repulsoid to woman. It seems that there may be one woman who I'm not totally repulsive to. It might be just because she didn't want to be alone on Christmas and when the holidays are over she will go *POOF*.

This is a no-brainer to me.
AS a possible AVD & anxious personality....I'll take the rejecter role.

Rejectee, I'd feel bad to reject someone else... but if it were me being rejected i'd be more inclined to distance myself from my feelings altogether, something I've grown quite use to, and sort of like.

Either way I figure rejection is bad and situations that can lead to it should be avoided at all costs

I've been so notorious with preemptive rejections that at this point I'd prolly welcome someone getting close enough and really reject me for the life experience.

Ignoring calls, emails, people knocking at your door, all communication, is easy. Cause im saving them the trouble dealing with my awkwardness. Basically doing them a favor.

Being the rejectee is too painful. Being the rejecter is something that I'm never able to be, so I'll take it.

I could have gotten this woman to reject me, I'm sure. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm still sure she will reject me at some point. I really don't think we're a match. She's very religious and I'm definitely not. I could have said I'm an atheist but I didn't. If I argue religion with her I'm sure that would end it.

Like all times when I find a woman interested in me I find myself hoping she finds another guy. It's been many many years since any woman has been interested and I'm still in the same frame of mind. At least this time I was able to actually share phone numbers and go on a date. At this rate, by the time I'm 70 I'll be ready for a relationship!

The rejecter. Of course it does not feel nice but it does not hurt as much as being rejected. Being emphatic, I have always found it hard to reject anyone or to say something unkind to anyone, unless I was exploding with anger and was kind of right. Being rejected is just one of the most horrible feelings in the world. I don't know how anyone can take it. The one time I was rejected was one of the most painful experiences I have ever had to endure and I still feel horrible just thinking about it. Especially since the guy handled it completely disgustingly and he said horrible things behind my back. To be honest I still cannot get over the things he said. He denies ever having said those but I know he said them.

Why don't her to read the God Delusion by Richard Dawkins, maybe you can deconvert her.lol. What religion is she,Fundamentalist Christian?

Well at the very least it will be an experiance for you?

She's Catholic. Ugh.

I feel like I'm using her in a way. Like I'm getting her hopes up that I can be a bf. She keeps telling me that she's rejected other guys though. Then WFF?? I like being with hookers much better. That's pretty staightforward.

I think she's kind of melodramatic. She told me how she had to walk away from a guy she loved once. I'm not sure wht the story is. She told me that she has always been atracted to macho type jerks. She says that's part of her Spanish culture - she's Spanish. She told me how one bf drank all the time and once ran over someone with his car while she was in it.

Maybe she's trying to do the opposite? Or maybe I'm a real macho kind of guy? Dunno. I'm SO confused.