Would you still help the kind of people who are mean to you?

If some exactly like the people who bullied you asked you for a car ride, or other favor out of desperation. Would you take the high ground and give them help or tell them to shove it.

Especially if you know they are going to be ungrateful for the help. Like being with you was just a burden to endure.

One day one of the guys who was terrible to me in school came by as the pizza delivery guy. I din't tell him off or thow the money at him. I just said thanks, gave him the money and took the pizza.

If someone who has been a jerk towards me asks me for help, I do one of a few things, depending on how much I dislike them, and how big a jerk towards me they were >.>; If they are not huge jerks, I either do what I usually do (i.e. nothing, just go my own way and let them deal with it.) or if it is not anything major, then I may begrudgingly do it. If the person is a huge jerk, then the gloves come off, so to speak. If the choice is available to me, I will pretend I am willing (i.e. letting someone copy off my test, only to give them all wrong answers and watch them crash and burn) or tell them that I am too busy or simply don't care. Man, thinking about it, I am more mean than I thought >.>;;

First off, I would do my utmost to avoid being anywhere near anyone who is on my "black list" (yes I have one, at least mentally), so I don't think I would find myself in the situation where one of these people will ask me a favour.

If the situation does occur, would I grant any favour? I suppose it completely depends on any self interest I might have. If it is something that avoids further conflict, I could actually be inclined to give in. If not I would probably actually have the guts to tell them to ###$ off, although it would make me very anxious and make my heart rate go through the roof.

When I was in high school, I never refused any favour from anyone because I was catholic.
In recent years there were not many people treating me bad. Apart from those people I was close to (including my mother).
I think I became a little bit more selfish, but I still try to avoid conflict with people I meet regularly.
And I do favours to people I don't like, if it's not their fault that I don't like them (if they don't harm me then it's definitely not their fault).

I for some reason can never seem to refuse anything anyone asks me, even if i really really don't want to do it. I Always tell myself im not helping them anymore, im tired of being taken advantage of, but yet i still cannot say 'No'. Then on the other hand i cannot ask anyone for a favor or anything really.

Let's turn this around a bit. What if someone you may or may not like asks you a favour that would involve doing something that goes against your avoidant nature, such as going somewhere where you have to talk to lots of people you've never met before? EEP! I think not!

Radovan wrote:Let's turn this around a bit. What if someone you may or may not like asks you a favour that would involve doing something that goes against your avoidant nature, such as going somewhere where you have to talk to lots of people you've never met before? EEP! I think not!

Even if I knew and didn't dislike them per se, I wouldn't do it. Someone tried to convince me to go to a party a few years back and made reservations and everything for me without my consultation for the limo and what have you (I deplore limos, so gaudy and lacking function.) The party was based on a large group of people being divided into groups and then sent on a scavenger hunt where you ring random doorbells and ask people for certain objects... suffice to say, I did not go. They ended up losing $60ish~ dollars because I didn't show up, so I'll admit to being slightly guilty about that, but such is life.

OH! A morality question! It's always so much fun to be the amoral bastard in the thread!!

No but seriously it would depend on the kind of favor. If it's something that wouldn't be too much of a bother then yeah, but if it's something that would require some effort I think I would prpobably say no and make up some excuse. Though I think I would be more inclined in helping since it's in my nature. I'm a "can't say no" kind of person.

I will generally help someone who asks, whether I think they treat me right or not. I will offer to help without being asked if it it someone I like.