social situations in which you feel most comfortable

Yeah, sounds like a strange topic for an AvPD forum.
But I observed that there are some social constellations than make me feel less uncomfortable than others. And I'm curious whether others have the same.
I prefer structured and goal-directed interactions. When I meet people for study purposes it's easier because we have a task and I don't have to be afraid to bore people.
And I prefer to be with 2 or 3 people. Dyadic interaction scares me, because I feel responsible to keep the interaction going and in this setting people might expect me to open up. And when I'm alone with a guy who could be interested in me, I'm afraid he might seek physical contact.
With two or three people I'm usually fine and even talk a lot. Bigger groups are difficult. It happens in groups that someone starts talking and than realizes halfway that nobody is listening. I would feel rejected if that happened to me so I don't say anything when in a group except when asked.
So I prefer being with 2 or 3 people for some purpose (studying, waiting for the bus etc.).

Hrm. I don't expect everyone will reply with "None.". Even social awkwardness is a sliding scale.

I'm fine with a small group of people I know quite well, but if the group is too big I tend to fall silent. In fact I remember noticing I was doing remarkably will this weekend in a group of 5 people (including me), one of whom I had only seen once previously. The conversation topics were mostly superficial though. Also it depends on if there are other people around, this was an in-home situation.

But probably I'm most comfortable in one-on-one situations with someone I know. If there's 3 people (including me) I often get in situations where the other two are mostly talking to each other.

I don't think the setting (casual or professional) matters too much to me, I can be uncomfortable in either. I guess at least in a professional setting it's easier to find something to talk about (work), but still I manage to find myself lost for words.

As for members of the opposite sex liking me, this doesn't happen. If it does I'm not able to read the signals. Embarrassingly I have had men liking me. Maybe they're just more obvious.

im really only comfortable under internet anonymity

I'm most comfortable one-on-one. The bigger the group, the less I will talk.

One-on-one is usually for some scheduled purpose, a shared task for instance, and I assume the other person wants to talk with me, or at least there is no other competition, so there is no other person for me to assume someone would rather hear. There is that risk of prolonged silence, though, and sometimes I find myself searching for something to say next to minimize those, but usually I'm fairly comfortable with one person and it's a low risk of silence in that scenario.

In a group, I assume people would rather I leave them alone until and unless proven otherwise. There is frequently someone who loves to hear themselves talk, so I will just let that person run off at the mouth and only respond if specifically asked something.

Skog wrote:In a group, I assume people would rather I leave them alone until and unless proven otherwise. There is frequently someone who loves to hear themselves talk, so I will just let that person run off at the mouth and only respond if specifically asked something.

Agreed, there will often be one or more person/people particularly socially dominant in a group. In that case I will let them talk.

The only social situations that seem to bear the least amount of stress or pressure, usually involve working in a group to objectively complete a task. This holds true for both work and college. I suppose it's because there's an impersonal boundary set under these circumstances. When I'm forced to open up, I almost immediately freeze up and talk at such a low level, you'd think I was only espousing gutteral noises. : \
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I can't think of many situations I'd be comfortable in, to be honest. I guess a social situation with an easily accessible "panic button" that I can could press to withdraw and cut off all ties, which is mainly why I am semi-able to post a fair amount here, even if I can't force myself to start new threads >.>;

A_FishNamedEric wrote:..., even if I can't force myself to start new threads >.>;

Try it, maybe it will be therapeutic.

Radovan wrote:Try it, maybe it will be therapeutic.

Eh, I have my doubts. Besides, there isn't much I have to talk about anyway >.>

A_FishNamedEric wrote:

Radovan wrote:Try it, maybe it will be therapeutic.

Eh, I have my doubts. Besides, there isn't much I have to talk about anyway >.>

Start a thread about having difficulty starting a thread. Like ask people if they've considered starting a thread, but then refrained from doing it for some reason. Should be interesting.