Personality Queries

Not entirely sure if this is in the right topic so please feel free to redirect the post.

Hey guys, 17 y/o male here

What I’ve got to say doesn’t really require an answer of sorts; rather I’m just looking for some thoughts and opinions. Okay, first of all I’m currently finishing up my last year of high school, just my final exams to go! I’m generally a really happy, easy-going person and pretty care free. Never bullied at school, I’ve got great friends, great parents; a pretty ideal life. So whyyy am I posting here? Well, apart from being happy, and all those other great things I’m also pretty shy, extremely apathetic (often mistaken for being lazy) and borderline “emotionally shallow”? (if that’s the right word, I doubt it is.) Every now and then these things just get to me.

I guess the best way to explain this is to go through it one by one.

Okay, so when I say “extremely apathetic” I mean there’s very little, if anything, that gets to me. I have little sense of materialistic possessions, I never get stressed, I’ll agree to more or less everything even if it’s inconvenient to me and in most situations I couldn’t care less one way or another.

There’s not a whole lot of explaining needed to be done when I say I’m shy. I just don’t like being around people I don’t know a whole lot and I’m not overly outgoing. Apparently when people first meet me they mistake that for me not liking them / hate.

Now for the whole “emotionally shallow” junk. What I mean is, my emotions are generally very contained and hardly ever go between extremes. I can’t say I’ve ever hated anyone, or felt a deep, meaningful connection with anyone. That’s not to say I don’t have people I’d consider best friends and I never get depressed or annoyed (sorry if I’m contradicting myself here). However, any feelings of depression or annoyance I get subside within a day, max (usually within an hour or so) and I guess I find it very easy to forget any kind of relationship I’ve had with someone. On top of this I find it hard to explain myself emotionally to anyone – especially if they hold a position of power over me (eg; parent, teacher). Sometimes it’s gotten bad enough that when mum’s asked me if there are any problems in my life I’ve just frozen up and cant say anything. Occasionally all that stuff gets in the way of relationships with people and often causes less than normal relationships with friends. As well as this I’ve noticed that in sexual / intimate situations I’m not very responsive and it can throw people off. Often they think something’s wrong so I’ve started to fake little things to make things less awkward.

Anyways, that’s just about it. As I said it doesn’t really require an answer of sorts, I was just looking to see what people's thoughts and opinions were. If you wanted to know anything in more detail just ask and I’d be happy to elaborate. Thanks.

Hey,

My thoughts are that if things are going well for you in life, then don't get too worked-up over these problems. In fact, 'problems' is the wrong word to use here entirely, because they are merely characteristics of who you are; and you should NOT be afraid or feel a lesser person for who you are. I mean, we don't all have to be buoyantly happy people with emotions that are strong - do we?

You are just 'you', so, be proud of it. Don't be afraid to be yourself dude.

Kevin

I agree with what Chucky said.

Chucky wrote: In fact, 'problems' is the wrong word to use here entirely, because they are merely characteristics of who you are; and you should NOT be afraid or feel a lesser person for who you are.

Hey guys, don't get me wrong here, I love who i am (not meaning to sound narcissistic) and don't have any problems with self esteem. Sorry if you were thrown off by my post, yeah it was pretty damn vague. What i was interested to see is if anyone found these kind of things unusual.

Also, perhaps i should elaborate on what i meant by "sometimes these things get to me." As i said im just finishing up with school and as you would expect im giving some thought as to what the future holds. Now keeping everything i said in mind im a little worried about how this will effect my ability to maintain a steady job / ongoing education etc granted that i lose interest quickly in things, even things that i love doing.

Hi again Nausicaa,

I understand why you're worried about your future, but most people don't look too far ahead in their lives because it inevitably seems daunting. It is also a bit illogical to predict how you will feel in a few years time, and even in one year. A year is a very long time and a person can change so much during that time. So, whilst you may be pessimistic about jobs right now, perhaps in a year you will like the idea of getting a job.