Do you get your feelings hurt VERY easily???

Thank you all for helping me out!!!

Take Care!

Not anymore as I used to. I have a better idea of what I want from life now, and know that I'm the only one that can make it happen.

As for others opinions, I still get anxious(if not I wouldn't be avpd, right?), but I don't spend nearly as much time as I used to analyzing what happened or trying to guess the outcome of a social event.

I just know that it's likely to be painful, but it has been as such for a while now.

hsp have you been diagnosed with AvPD? i cannot help but feel that your questions always sound like your trying to point out symptoms from a list of criteria. Yes of course our feelings get hurt easily, any avoidant will tell you so. I'm not discouraging you to post these kind of question in any way, but it just seems that your out to list every thing related to AvPD to see if it applies to other people as well. If your not avoidant (but feel that you are) i can understand where the questions are coming from, but if you are then you should realize that these thing always affect avoidants. ( some of the obvious things you shouldn't even need to ask)

I am referring to questions such as this and few other topics you have started. Again i am not complaining just wondering if your out to get a diagnosis, or if your just wondering if anyone feels the same way as you do. Trust me we all feel the way you do, about the feelings, loneliness , feeling like failure's etc... You don't need reassurance from us about feeling like a loser, because i think we feel like losers in some aspects.

please don't think this post the wrong way i'm not out to hurt anyone's feelings, just an observational comment. carry on

Yes, my feelings also get hurt very easily,

hsp, you have to tell yourself you don't need anyone
else's confirmation of you being worthy individual

you must love yourself for who you are,
others come second here

why do you get that feeling every time?
why do you think YOU did sth wrong?

Or maybe he just wants reassurence that others feel the way he does.

hsp wrote:I do, I feel that when people stop talking to me it is CAUSE OF ME!!! I feel like they think I am some kinda freak. I feel like I should NOT be alive when that happens..... :cry:

How about you, do you ever feel like this, or does your feelings get hurt easily??? :cry:

Yes, I feel that way. While I have upon occasion overcome my reflex to withdraw and initiate some contact myself, I never find that other people pick up on what sort of initiation or encouragement I need from them, and soon I am again feeling like they are avoiding me and prefer that I am not around. Then, I feel hurt again.

Or maybe he just wants reassurence that others feel the way he does

yes, i would agree to that,
only one correction

it's SHE

lana_anic wrote:

Or maybe he just wants reassurence that others feel the way he does

yes, i would agree to that,
only one correction

it's SHE

lol

mullog wrote:Or maybe he just wants reassurence that others feel the way he does.

HI as lana said I am she and PLEASE KNOW that I am deeply sorry if I caused any kinda pain, I am very new at this and I did ask my therapist if she thinks (from the traits of a AvPD) i have this and she said YES. Mullog please know that I was only trying to get the reassurence that others feel this way. I promiss I will not talk about the "symptoms" any more.

Again Please accept my appologies friend! I am deeply sorry!

hsp wrote:"HI as lana said I am she and PLEASE KNOW that I am deeply sorry if I caused any kinda pain, I am very new at this and I did ask my therapist if she thinks (from the traits of a AvPD) i have this and she said YES. Mullog please know that I was only trying to get the reassurence that others feel this way. I promiss I will not talk about the "symptoms" any more.

Again Please accept my appologies friend! I am deeply sorry! Embarassed

ok there you go, you had to go and make me feel bad for saying anything (which i do a lot)

I tried to tell you not to take it the wrong way, but your emotions got the best of you, in that case i'm sorry.

I wasn't trying to say that your posts don't help anyone or anything like that, because they do, lot of people respond (I have to). I was merely trying to let you know that you don't need reassurance for this disorder. You can bet that if your always feeling lonely, most of us probably are to. If you often feel extremely hurt by people (about little things), we probably do to. Most strange or irrational things you think or do will be because of this disorder, but not all things, people can be strange all on their own.

So you have to ask whatever questions you want to now, if you don't i will feel bad. Ask whatever you like, i never asked you stop asking questions or anything like that