Am I AvPD?

Hi I'm new here and I've been thinking about this for a while. I don't know where to turn to as this is eating me up inside. I desperately want friends but I hate being in social situations. It's like a vicious cycle.

I'm 20 and when I was at school i had a good group of friends. I was always pretty quiet and I could talk mostly to the people closest to me. I put this down to simple shyness. After school I went to a different college to all my friends and I'm still friends with them now even though some are in different parts of the country now I still consider them as my best friends.

After I went to college and I'm now at uni. I have been very barely sociable. In each place I find that there is really one person I talk to constantly and this has only usually been within college or uni. I tend not to see them outside these places.

I'm usually fine talking to one person. though sometimes I pretend to be busy like checking my phone or rummaging through something so I don't have to have a conversation with them. And if I do I'm usually preoccupied with what these people think of me and wondering if what I'm saying is stupid. I don't even say hi to people I've acknowledged before if I see them around. I'm pretty sure they all think I'm ignorant.

I can't talk to people if there is more than one person. I can been chatting to one person quite freely but then someone will come along and I'll just clamp up. I think these people must hate me and think I don't like them.

The clincher came the other day when I was at my boyfriend's house. His friend's came round who I only know very vaguely and wanted to go back to their house and watch videos. I felt very shaky and sick then and sat away from them where they couldn't really see me. I ended up going and was fine at first whilst we were watching the film but then afterwards I felt very uncomfortable and out of place. I felt like I should say something but I didn't want them to think I was butting in. I ended up feeling sick again so I left and spent the rest of the evening on my own.

I don't know if it is AvPd (though it seems to fit) but I'm pretty sure that something must be up with me. I want to see someone but I don't know how to go about it. Any comments would be very much appreciated.

I'm in a somewhat similar situation, have all the problems you mentioned (and lots more). I'm in university and can't make any new friends here.

If you don't know where to go, maybe your university has its own place for counselling that you could get some guidance from, and they could tell you where else to go if you want.

I'd give you some direct advice but really, you seem a lot better of than I am right now so I obviously couldn't give you anything useful.

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Thankyou both very much i really appreciate it. you've been very helpful.
And thanks for giving me a clearer idea of the difference between social phobia and AvDP. I didn't quite understand it before.