what next?

My therapist left. This has been on the verge of happening for quite a while, and it's definitely for the best. My last session was last Friday.

I was assigned a new therapist at her practice. I met her once and she was very huffy, insisting she knew what AvPD was, that she has this long history working with patience, and wouldn't answer how many avoidants she's worked with. That meeting was a month ago.

She was supposed to contact me to set up a session, and hasn't.

How long should I wait?
Should I contact her now? (I know her first name but not her last, and it's a common name, it could be a circus to track her down.)
Should I just find a new therapist since she's obviously not interested in working with me?

If you really wanted to have a session with her to see if you like her you can, but if her first impression was not great to you, there's no problem in finding a different one. You are paying her for her services. As in, SHE works for YOU. She has zero right to be huffy like that.

Perhaps think of her as a back-up...while your interviewing other therapists. Therapy is expensive and of little value if the relationship between the client and therapist is not productive for you, the one paying for their professional services. Best of luck to you.

I'm sorry to hear about losing your therapist Inverse. It's tough when that happens. The new woman sounds pretty rude about things to be honest.

This might be just me, but I think if your gut instinct says "this person doesn't feel right", go with that. I've spent way too long dealing with people thinking "maybe it will improve a bit", but it never has. The ones it's worked with I've walked away from a first session thinking either that I like them/feel somewhat comfortable and want to work with them, or where I'm not totally sure but wanting to try again. The ones where I've thought "this just isn't going to work"- I should have listened to that.

Can you ask if there's someone else you can see? Would your old therapist be contactable to ask for a recommendation for someone else? It's up to you, but it sounds like seeking someone out might be better than waiting on the new therapist.

So my "new therapist" called me at 430 this afternoon to say she was leaving for the day, and would be out on Monday, but was trying to set up an appointment with me. Uh-huh...