great gosh almighty!

You know how I was whining a while back about how useless it is to do an intervention?
Yeah, I was whining, I can admit it.
A recap:
I staged an intervention.
Went in and said, hey, here's what's going on, and this is exactly what you need to do.
I guarantee it will work!
The reaction I got to the intervention was not positive, to say the least.
I'd say it was along the lines of rabid dog/mountain lion mauling.
Now the same person is having a crisis and begging for anyone to give any advice about how to get through it...
Poor thing.
Unfortunately, I have learned my lesson.
I'm sure if I said anything, I would be attacked again.
Right?
So...
I'm trying to not give into my normal pattern of behavior
which is to help anyone and everyone in any way I can
putting myself and my needs last
of course
as it should be.
I'm going to feel like $#%^ to watch this slide
but I tried to help once
and I'm thinking
this cry for help is a mask
a trap
someone trying to get some attention
trying to manufacture some pity.
I suspect the aim is to break the will of someone who is trying hard not to give into some expert level manipulation.
But, you know, the whirlpool is spinning, and I'm feeling the pull of the current.
I'm trying hard not to jump in again.
I'm doing the right thing, right?

I usually vote on polls, but without knowing the details (is this a life or death situation, for example) I can't vote.

My gut says, no, it's not life and death. It's more like someone who's claiming to be completely miserable and doesn't know the way out of it. Even though I just walked them through exactly what they need to do...

Do you watch the show "Intervention"? They pretty much say either go to treatment or else. And the "or else" is usually something like "I care a lot about you/I love you but I won't be in your life anymore" or "I won't support you anymore" unless you go. They don't guarantee success. Of course it could be a show full of hooey like a lot of the reality shows.. so I don't know.

My intervention was, accept who you are and go to therapy for your actual problems, not what you wish they were. Funny, when you lie to everyone, including your doctors, you never get any better. It works so well for ostriches...

My problem is that I think that in every instance I'm the lowest rung on the ladder, so, even though I know how it's going to end up, I feel like I have no right to make a self-protective choice. See, me trying to avoid being attacked means that I think I'm worth something. Well, that can't be right, now can it be?