Girls get laid easilly its so unfair

Even when you bypass anxiety and all problems girls still get laid much easier.I hate that guys have to work so hard to get something female gets with snap of the finger.
In 25 years i got job got social and nothing has changed,i still see girls picking guys and guys trying hard only to be rejected including myself.
Or maybe i m dellusional.

What about the guys who are laying these easily laid girls? People...they are so...people.

No I think you're right.

Guys tend to be pretty 'thirsty' and they naturally have a higher need for sex, they can become so needy that they tend to every whim of the girls. Girls know exactly how thirsty said guys are and use this to their advantage.

Unlike guys, girls don't need to become needy because A. They don't need it as much and B. They know there are always guys who want it so they don't have to try.

I even read an article about how girls withhold sex from their partners when they want something from them, and then use it as a reward. Of course this is how adultery happens so it's usually ends badly.

Fair point that there have to be guys who lay these easily laid girls. The thing is the above isn't true for every male/female. Not all girls and controlling and not all guys are predators.

I found two social experiments that go along with what I'm saying, but of course there are so many more factors that change the outcome of this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxyySRgrYsU (asking 100 girls for sex)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBtF3I7fDfU (asking 100 guys for sex)

Well ... if you put yourself out there it's easy, I suppose.

But if you avoid all people, how is that supposed to happen? If you believe the crap that was fed to you growing up, that there is something "wrong" with anyone who's attracted to you, then how are you supposed to trust someone enough to actually have sex with them?

Auxiliary11 wrote:No I think you're right.

Guys tend to be pretty 'thirsty' and they naturally have a higher need for sex, they can become so needy that they tend to every whim of the girls. Girls know exactly how thirsty said guys are and use this to their advantage.

Unlike guys, girls don't need to become needy because A. They don't need it as much and B. They know there are always guys who want it so they don't have to try.

I even read an article about how girls withhold sex from their partners when they want something from them, and then use it as a reward. Of course this is how adultery happens so it's usually ends badly.

Fair point that there have to be guys who lay these easily laid girls. The thing is the above isn't true for every male/female. Not all girls and controlling and not all guys are predators.

I found two social experiments that go along with what I'm saying, but of course there are so many more factors that change the outcome of this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxyySRgrYsU (asking 100 girls for sex)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBtF3I7fDfU (asking 100 guys for sex)

Those "social experiments" are generally fake.

Why dont try to be gay?

Playing at both sides, you double your odds.

creative_nothing wrote:Why dont try to be gay?

Playing at both sides, you double your odds.

As a homosexual individual and avoidant, even though I can get people interested in me when meet them on the internet, it doesn't make anything easier because I still have avpd and being self-conscious/anxious all the time doesn't make it more easy at all instead I get even more triggered.
In fact what I keep saying is that straight people have it so easy on them, the irony.

ObsidianSerpentine wrote:What about the guys who are laying these easily laid girls? People...they are so...people.

Human being is still an animal. That means the strong male gets all the females.

Furthermore, altough woman in general are less sexually agressive, those that are sexually agressive can easily ###$ their male counterparts.

And finally, a woman will like someone who can proctect her, not someone who will use her as a shield. That makes AvPD much harder for man.

I see the point that you are making. I can accept that usually it's up to the man to make the first move, and that women kind of have the final consent. This makes it easier for a women.

However, does this mean that we are out to simply get laid? Is it merely about having sex?

If we are looking at finding and forming relationships, and lasting relationships, then is equally hard for both sexes. I could even argue, that it's harder for a women, as men are less inclined to make commitments.

I think that there is some stereotyping and over-generalization going on here.

As an Avoidant female, I don't think I found it easy to 'get laid'. In my younger days, when I was single, I must have been a nightmare to 'chat up'. Many gave up! They moved on to girls that were easier to talk to, who were fun to be with.

Actually, I had more success in a relationship if I knew the person first. In fact, I think that all my relationships have been like that.

inverse wrote:Well ... if you put yourself out there it's easy, I suppose.

But if you avoid all people, how is that supposed to happen? If you believe the crap that was fed to you growing up, that there is something "wrong" with anyone who's attracted to you, then how are you supposed to trust someone enough to actually have sex with them?

Exactly. Or if you believe it is simply impossible for anyone to be attracted to you... Then you're not going to put yourself out there.