Contradictory messages from my mum

Here's the situation:

My good friend A has moved on from me, widening her circle of friends and I was pleased for her. When I told my mum that (she wanted to know what I had been chatting about on the phone), my mum said, don't be so naive and think that your friend would only have time for you, people are growing up and are having more friends (since we're at uni now). The thing is, I knew that, but it still hurt me for my mum to say something like that.

This was a few months ago. Just now, my mum says, why don't you e-mail friend C? You e-mailed friend B wishing her good luck for her Year 12 exams so why don't you have time for friend C (who's also at uni)? Now, the thing is, friend C was never really my friend--just someone who could've been but never became a real friend. My mum seems to think that she is, and when I replied that friend B needs luck for Year 12, while friend C is at uni and so doesn't need luck for anything, my mum got angry. I left it there, and said ok I'll e-mail her, but I'm really angry and determined not to e-mail.

Why? Not only because friend C is not my friend, but because my mum had said earlier from above paragraph that don't be naive, hanging onto people who are having actually some sort of a life. This friend C has joined a significant number of societies and revue teams, all while doing medicine, and I suspect has not lived at home for some time because she's always at some sort of club and society function, or rehearsals for so-and-so revue, or at so-and-so's party/sleepover, etc.

See the irony? Now, I don't know whether I'm doing the right thing by not e-mailing, but just had to let that out. What do you all think?

In my opinion, it is really not your mother's business who and if you e-mail. She will sometimes be mistaken and misinterpret (like right now) and some other time she may have some good advice. In any case, you should e-mail or not independent of your mother, i.e. your spite against her should not keep you from e-mailing and your connection to her should not make it obligatory for you to email anyone.

Something else to consider regarding e-mailing acquaintance C: even if she is not a friend-friend, you may want to foster the acquaintance, as a networking exercise. Of course, being avoidant, this may be difficult, but a simply quick e-mail with "hello, how are things" may be sufficient.

Speaking of networking, I should practice what I preach and foster some of my e-mail acquaintances by at least acknowledging their e-mails. LOL.

Cheers,

Dragonfly.

Hey Dragonfly, thanks for your input--it's good to see someone else's perspective on things other than my own avoidant one