Want to be taken seriously

I have heard ADHD and ADD are underdiagnosed in women. I think I might have ADHD and here is why:

-never paid attention in school, got by because I was 'gifted and talented' and could pull sh*t together at the last moment
-dropped out of high school at 16 when I couldn't pull sh*t together at the last moment anymore
-constantly fidget in meetings and forget 90% of the content
-finally finishing my associates degree, using my seat-of-the-pants/cram for 24 hours method, got an F and a C in one class this year due to zero studying, but pretty sure I can cram my way up to a B on the final
-chronically, perpetually, ALWAYS late. Something that will obviously take an hour - I say I'll do in 10 minutes. I need to take a shower, dry my clothes and find my keys. Tell my bf I'll be over "in 10 minutes". It's like I have no concept of time sometimes.
-I'm incredibly inpatient, and have trouble agreeing to allocate an hour or two of my time to anything. Like a movie, a play, a museum, whatever.
-Screw up on assignments a lot. End up doing a lot of rework from half-a** reading the directions, or loading the document but forgetting to submit it. My work is usually great and my grades are mostly good now- just late,
-don't listen in conversations, frequently find myself saying "totally unrelated, but have you heard about such-and-such"... because I really just wasn't paying attention and had just followed my own train of thought to Albuqueue or wherev
-have a zillion different interests. Used to have trouble finishing things, now i finish things but sometimes it takes a looong time. My house is usually undergoing 5 different projects at once
-My supervisor talked to me twice last year about "inconsistent" production and quality
-one time I helped my bf do laundry and I seriously spent 10 minutes putting different socks together, off in lala land... he kicked me over to hang up tee-shirts because it was less confusing/distracting than trying to make perfect pairs of socks
-short fuse, tempermental, if I've heard a story before I interrupt and tell the person I've heard it before

People see me as successful, but I see myself as all over the place, distracted, and spend a lot of time wandering around my house trying to remember what I got up to look for If I'm interested in something.. I can spend hours and hours on it. There's usually a good chance I won't be interested in it tomorrow, or will find something more interesting to pursue, and neither of these things will have anything to do with what I'm supposed to be doing

Exercise helps some, but I feel I will never be normal, or achieve the things I could achieve if I could keep my mind on them. I know i'm very smart... my job pays well, but the boredom is killing me.

My sister has schizophrenia, and my mom was diagnosed with ADD when she was in college. Her house is a MESS, and she tells me I must be okay because I have a clean house. But I still can't find anything. If my house was any messier, my mind would be complete chaos too. Finally, kind of random, but I think I might also have sleep apnea. I've had sore throats, bouts of strep, and tonsilitis since I was young, and my boyfriend told me I snore a lot. I wake up a lot at night and remember a large number of my dreams, and am always tired. Annnd I just recently read this study that having a tonsilectomy might cure some ADHD cases.

So I went to a psychologist and told him my issues. I didn't really get super in depth (like tell him that list up there) because it's kind of hard to talk to a stranger. On the outside, I think I appear to have it together. Job, house, car, hobbies, and a friendly personality and good friends (though a tendency to say things I shouldn't-foot-in-mouth disease). On the inside... I live all day inside my head! I'm creative, and usually the first to figure out answers to a problem... but if it's not new and interesting, I'm bored and done with it.

The psychologist said I was fine, I should look for a different job, and told me some techniques to not get distracted, like taking micro-breaks while working. Worst idea ever... I just wander off from my desk and don't come back for 20!!! vs just sitting there and my mind wandering for a few minutes.

So my question is... am I just "lazy, stupid and crazy"??? Is this just part of living in modern society? Is it my sleep problems? Should I just suck it up and deal with it? And if not... how do I get someone to take me seriously???

You're far from crazy. What's important is that you know what areas of your life need some improvement (that 'list' of yours that you've drawn up...). So, how about writing that out again on a sheet of paper - but more concisely - and then thinking about how you are going to tackle each in order to improve them? Don't even think about tackling all of them at once, because that simply won't work at all. Focus on one, develop habits that could improve it, and then move onto the next.

For example, I think that being late for things could be solved by planning better. Each night, think about what is required of you the following day, and think about what needs to be done - and when - in order to make your appointments/engagements on time. If I had to go to a course in the morning at 9.30AM, then I would already have worked out in my head when I need to go to bed and get up. I would adjust my alarm to a certain time too. Your life needs a little bit more order to it.

I don't think that what the psychologist told you was overly beneficial. However, realise that you didn't tell him/her everything there is to know about you. ADD/ADHD sound like contenders alright..

Kevin