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It is a book, which I haven't read, btw, but was discussing about it with a friend recently. It simplifies human interactions to two basic patterns: adult-adult interaction and parent-child interaction. Adult-adult is the healthy interaction. Parent-child interaction comes with a few varieties, but it is basically unhealthy way of interacting and based on power games. Whoever holds the "parent" role dominates over whoever holds the "child" role. There are other possible patterns, but they ultimately devolve to either an adult-adult or a parent-child
Some variations of interest are the power-hungry parent who oppresses the child, the pushover parent who gets pushed around by the child, the overprotective parent who makes the child spoiled and useless, etc. Also the mischievous child, the attention seeking, the disciplined/oppressed child, etc. The terminology sounds stupid (and in my mother tongue it sounded even more stupid, but this is what the book writer uses), so I am gonna clarify here that it has absolutely nothing to do with parenting, it is all adult interactions
The various communication games people play and are mentioned in the book also end up as examples to an unhealthy, parent-child interaction
I have always believed that most interactions have one party who is more dominant and one party who is more submissive. I mean even asking for directions on the street, one person usually takes a more passive stance and the other takes a more assertive, even if the difference is very slight
Has anyone read the book? And if so you want to discuss about it with me, cause I haven't read it but I am super interested in this.
Also what do you think about the patterns, the neutral/healthy interaction and the unhealthy, power-struggle, "parent-child" interaction? (parent child might seem an uncorrect name to describe an unhealthy interaction, but really even the best parents are by defacto authority figures to their children, even if they don't purposely try to, I mean even I am. So the interaction will always have an unhealthy, power-struggle shadow in it)
Another thing I wanna discuss is, does anyone think that these patterns can also describe some thought processes? Ex, your internal dialogues, or decision making process, or something. this is basically what interests me the most, so if you wanna focus on this, even better
Forum interactions probably have a lot of this patterns too, though most here seem to only be interested in the "mischievous child" role
Also I am trying to make a serious discussion here, so don't derail the ###$ out of my thread ( <-- classic parent role, btw)
and last note, if anyone has read the book, does it have any other patterns of interaction than the two I mentioned? If so, which ones? My buddy didn't remember any others but it seems kind of lacking, if that's all. I mean I can oversimplify all interactions to these two basic modes, but it feels like way too much oversimplification and somewhat missing the point of many communication patterns