angry and sad

i have recently been told i need some sort of anger manaegment course or something because im constantly flipping out about how the kids and girlfriend put there stuff away.
its become so bad that im feeling so down all the time now i feel like i want to cry and just give up now as my lifes a misery to put it bluntly
my girlfriend made me go to be checked out for adhd or anger problems and they have reffered me back to my gp but i was wondering if theres anything i can do to calm me down or make me feel a bit more happier within myself as if i carry on like this
i also have an ex girlfriend that lives in brazil with my son and over the years i have sent money to her for him but all i get in return is her telling me off for not being part of his life and helping to raise him ive asked her to at least let me get to know him thru skype which she doesnt even bother to turn up for and when i confront her about this she laughs at me.
im getting to the point now where i think more and more my life just isnt worth it sometimes and i wish it would all end ive never tried to kill myself or anything like that but just feel angry and sad all the time
if theres any advice i would really like to hear from you about now as i dont know if i can carry on being the way i am thankyou tom

Hi, barnes666! Please don't give up, even though life is hard. It's understandable that you're upset, who could blame you considering how your ex is treating you? How about looking for a therapist to help you with the anger and depression and stress?
You could come here and post when you feel stressed. You could try to find an activity that relaxes you a bit, maybe a hobby.
Your son will be old enough to want to talk to you some day and he'll realize that you're a good person. You can still have a relationship.
How about talking to your girlfriend about your problems a little too?

barnes666 wrote:i have recently been told i need some sort of anger manaegment course or something because im constantly flipping out about how the kids and girlfriend put there stuff away.
its become so bad that im feeling so down all the time now i feel like i want to cry and just give up now as my lifes a misery to put it bluntly
my girlfriend made me go to be checked out for adhd or anger problems and they have reffered me back to my gp but i was wondering if theres anything i can do to calm me down or make me feel a bit more happier within myself as if i carry on like this
i also have an ex girlfriend that lives in brazil with my son and over the years i have sent money to her for him but all i get in return is her telling me off for not being part of his life and helping to raise him ive asked her to at least let me get to know him thru skype which she doesnt even bother to turn up for and when i confront her about this she laughs at me.
im getting to the point now where i think more and more my life just isnt worth it sometimes and i wish it would all end ive never tried to kill myself or anything like that but just feel angry and sad all the time
if theres any advice i would really like to hear from you about now as i dont know if i can carry on being the way i am thankyou tom

Hey Tom!
Without question it’s a challenging chapter in your life. When facing difficult situations it’s healthy to go straight to the root of its origin. I believe that you must attend first your previous issue with your son in Brazil.

You’re doing the right thing by supporting him at least financially. I’m not aware of the legal situation or terms that you’re under, but you might want to inform yourself on what options do you have in terms of custody and thing like that. Of course you first have to ask yourself what you really want with your son in the future. From there you must act, but do it consulting legal professional help.

I believe once you have attended and resolve your situation with your son (or at least be in the process of resolving it), your relation in your current family will change on its own. Remember, don’t be reactive, stop and think, respond to the situation with a calm cool head, the result is always better and wiser.