Texting Things I'd Never Say In Real Life?

Ever since I first started texting, I have had serious issues with anger management in terms of my text relationships with people. I'm 22 and I don't even text often, basically the only times I do are when I'm going crazy at my girlfriend. I say HORRIBLE things, I recently started using the C word and I just try to say anything that will make her hurt. I feel so guilty afterwards, but while it's happening I just cannot stop myself. It just keep happening and I hate myself for it, just hate myself.

Does anybody else have serious issues when it comes to anger over text messages or social media? I mean I know I have serious anger issues even without these things, but it seems like they amplify it. I was going to ask for tips on how to stop it, but I think I'll just browse around this section and see what I find.

Thanks

Hi I know what you are getting at. I have a similar thing with certain forums.

I don't do texting at all but on some forums, i get angry and nasty with people. In the end i got myself banned from my favourite forum. Its been good for me because i can't say unpleasant things to anyone and i can't regret it. I don't know the answer really.

In that situation the triggering thing was that there were smart people who would either talk down or talk over me. I didn't like their smugness and superiority. Sometimes they were condescending or patronising. I didn't like that either. These sorts of things led me to say things i would regret.

If you are unable to control your behaviour, i think its good if you can somehow get rid of the texting. I would even go so far as to say to your girlfiend not to receive or accept any text message from you. If that's possible.

but underlying all this, there must be some problem you have with your girlfriend. Do you actually deeply like her. I think you can't really respect her if you are saying such things. Perhaps you don't want to be with her but think its better to be with her than no one and so you stick around and cause her pain. If you don't actually respect her then may be you should call it quits. The thing is, i can't accept that you could possibly respect her or love her if you are able to say such things even in a text message. Perhaps the rest of the time you are able to suppress your reactions but because texting seems so impersonal and easy you can't stop yourself expressing your real feelings.