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I always make mistakes at work

Postby Clandestine » Sat Apr 23, 2011 8:12 am

I feel like I'm not good at anything. I always seem to make mistakes at work and I feel like I don't have any common sense. What brought this on? I work at a country club and earlier this morning I was serving a member and for some reason the computer said that the holders of the account did not have "signing privileges". So I told her politely that it was probably just a mistake in accounting and to talk to them. I really tried to play it down. I told her with two of her other friends at the table. She was fine and really nice about it. No prob. Her husband came in later with one person and I told him the same thing because I didn't know if his wife told him. So later he finds me and tells me that he didn't appreciate me telling him that in front of another member.

I don't know where my common sense went and why I did that. I should have pulled him aside to tell him. How stupid of me! I thought he would be fine because his wife was. Nope. I apologized to him three times and told him that it wasn't my intention to embarrass him and that I was REALLY REALLY sorry. I really tried to play it down when I told him in the first place too like with his wife. I'm worried he is going to go talk to the GM and I might get fired if he is really mad. He may be on the board of the club but I'm not sure. I'm part time so I'm on the expendable side I think.

The problem is, this time I think I made a mistake that might really get me into trouble. I normally make small ones like not putting some food in correctly, or forgetting something. I feel like my boss at work doesn't have any confidence in me because of this. I just feel really inferior to everyone else at my job and the harder I try to be better like them, the more mistakes I seem to make. I don't want to be like that. But I am. I feel like if I get fired I will be letting my fiancee down because it's hard enough to get by with our bills and we both work. If I lose my job I will just be causing problems and it would be all my fault too.

I just never feel like I'm good enough and that I'm a real ditz and loser. I was so upset when I left work that I think I forgot to clock out too. Great. I feel like a waste of time and space sometimes and I hate that feeling. I just feel like I want to crawl into a corner where no one notices me. I don't always feel like this. It is only when I make mistakes at work.

I'm accident prone and forgetful. I don't know what to do.
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Re: I always make mistakes at work

Postby jasmin » Thu Apr 28, 2011 3:25 pm

Hi, Clandestine! You did not screw up too bad, maybe you could explain it to someone who is in charge and is a bit understanding? If not, don't worry, I doubt that member will say anything, you apologized and it was just an honest mistake, he'd be an ass if he'd report you.
If you have a lot of issues with self confidence and anxiety, you could look for a nice therapist to help you. Is therapy free where you live?
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Re: I always make mistakes at work

Postby ms.sunsets » Thu Apr 26, 2012 11:59 am

Hi Clandestine.
Wow, reading your experience really sounds exactly like what I'm going through. Sorry this is a reply to your post from a year ago, and you've probably forgotten about this incident, but there's no reason for you to feel so badly of yourself. I'm a full time employee, and I started working for my current place about 3 months ago, and I make mistakes every day. I hate waking up in the morning because I know that I'm going to make another mistake and get called on it. I try to triple check everything because I've become so paranoid, but I always seem to be forgetting something. I've lost appetite and all I want to crawl into my bed and sleep because at least in my dreams I am safe.
I like my job, but the people I work with really bring me down. That's why I'm always afraid of doing anything, and I make mistakes, and the whole cycle starts again. But I really don't want to quit because it took me six months to find this job and I don't want to go back to what I was doing before because it was too easy. (complete opposite!)But I found some great websites that tell you to Celebrate mistakes. People that make mistakes will learn from it and cause change in themselves and others. People that don't make any mistakes just stay the same, so there's no room for improvement or creativity. Which I think is a brilliant thought!
So I really hope you are still working at the country club, or somewhere that you feel loved and appreciated. Much Love!
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