by purrin » Mon May 28, 2012 12:13 am
Yes there IS and attitude that helps. It's helping me and I've been struggling with avolition for 20 years!
First of all the way I cam across this is filling my head with a lot of inspirational stuff, soul food, and postive reading, rather than too much news and stuff. Eventually it sinks in.
The other thing is never take drugs, the highs, the lows, the addictions, etc etc, it won't help in the long term.
OK this is what it is:
You have to focus on your strenghts.
Write down a long list of all the things you're good at, have ever been good at, and positve character traits. YOu don't have to be a superstar at these things, just simple things that you are more ok at than bad. Could be your walk, or gaming or dishwashing, uhuh the dishes were my main struggle in life before, anything. lol. Those are all the the things that you are good at.
Now stick it on a sticky note in igoogle or whatver diary you use!
Don't only read over it everyday. But think about them, make a mental note of things as well.
REally begin to focus on your strenghts. That way you will start to see things in proportion.
When you are coming from a place of weakness ie: avolition, procrastination, simple tasks will loom as enormous and very hard.
When you're coming from a place of strentghts, you will realise yuo can cope with more and more.
joesgoals.com has changed my life lately. I put all my goals in it and track them. It gave my life structure it didn't have before and it's really motivating using a goal tracker! This also has an igoogle badge. (Go igoogle). I also keep an accomplishments and gratitude log there.
Remeber there are lots of things about you. There is no one global principle like avolition ruling your life. You don't have avolition about ALL things ALL of the time.
Never focus on one single task you're procrastinating on and let it build up out of all proportion. Focus on strenghts and good feelings instead. Even if it's just an upbeat song on the radio. That way you are not feeding the avolition.
In th words of the iching there is not one single principle that is the solution to everything. You have to be flexible according to the time. So stop looking for that. Think of everything about yourself. YOU will feel more whole when you begin focusing on all your strengths.
Don't just focus on one strength, think about a few. Sometimes one is enough to get you up and going. Focusing on a few can give you the power to rock.
This will all build too, so it comes more naturally. And you begin to build a positve self image.
So you won't find yourself 'confessing' your weaknesses anymore to people either (and kicking yourself later), which is a bonus, you'll be confident instead.
Make it an ongoing project to add to your list of strenghts and things you are good at and postive character attributes. And really focus ont hose instead of your weaknesses.
It's working for me!
I really hope it works for you too!