This is the most confused I've been in my life.

Hello everyone; this is my first post here. Here's my situation and it's very long, but you can skip the first two paragraphs:

I'm a 20 year old gay man. I go to school in Massachusetts, but am from Texas. I met this guy over the Summer (in TX) and we went on dates everyday for about 7 days. These dates were amazing and we just couldn't get enough of each other. However, he had to leave for an internship in Mexico. We had sort of established that since he goes to school in MI, we could visit each other frequently. It did not happen, as he went to Michigan for 5 days (while still talking to me, although he stopped, sort of) and went back to his ex-boyfriend (found out through facebook), who he said he was still in love with (he said he couldn't control his feelings). I suffered so much that Summer, was depressed, but nevertheless still in love.

Fast forward and he broke up with his boyfriend .He realized he fell for me and the ex cheated on him after my guy stopped acting like his bf and everything. He visited me at school in MA on Labor Day weekend (said he never takes risks but he had decided to do this sort of suddenly) and we had the greatest time. We went to NYC, he bought a car. we slept together, etc. He is always so happy when he's with me, and I'm happiest with him. The goodbye was painful but I'm visiting him in 6 days.

The problem is that I'm feeling him extremely detached from me for the past week. He doesn't show me affection, calls me nice names like he had been doing, and doesn't text me first anymore. I feel like he's losing interest, but why? He deactivated his facebook because he says people there nag him all the time. I'm also thinking he might need space, since we have been texting all day everyday, but it might get boring for him. I had confronted him about him not talking about his feelings about 3 weeks ago, but he said that he was upset that he couldn't see me when he wants me, which causes him to shut down. He told me that me doubting the "relationship" (we are not official as I told him doing this would put pressure on us; he used "us" or "this," I forgot which) was a turnoff because he likes confidence, so he was doubting is as well now. He told me I should think if we should end it, but of course I said no. He said to think about it, but I said no after I "thought about it" the next day. One day though, he told me "And don't feel like a bother, I love you tons!" He told me his feelings for me hadn't changed.

After wondering why I'd get extremely anxious about anticipated texts, I realized that I might have an anxious attachment to him, especially because texts are basically the only way through which we communicate. I don't want to lose him, but I realized that me freaking out so easily and not letting the relationship breathe would kill it, so I stopped freaking out so much.

Now I think that it's his personality though. I feel like he might be a little insecure himself, but doesn't like admitting it. He likes to think of himself as being very alpha, very proud, a very charming and confident guy, but I know he also has a soft spot. I just know this whole wall he puts (pushing away) is because he's been hurt before, so he does it to not get hurt anymore. It's a coping mechanism. The thing though, is that sometimes he will tell me "I just realized that 8 guys like me," and the other night I told him I'd give him a massage and he replied "I really need one. I know there's at least one guy who would give me one, but Idk:/" I got mad and just said goodnight, to which he replied "goodnight " sarcastically. However, later I said that it wasn't cute he did that and that the last thing I wanted from him was mistrust. He told me he wasn't talking to anyone, but I'm feeling that him trying to get me jealous (which he has told me he likes his bf being jealous because he feels protected) just adds to me feeling anxious and insecure about the relationship, although I do feel like he would never cheat and I know he has told me he would stay single for me, to allow us to develop.

His parents divorced when he was a child (his father left him and his family and then he accused them of being drug addicts, etc so he wouldn't have to give them money) and his mother has never really showed him affection. He says she never really tells him she loves him or anything, but I have noticed he loves the woman (he said she's the most important person in his life). He's also very conservative for a gay man, although he does wear Abercrombie and likes money a lot. I feel like the issue with his parents' divorce is why he might be like that. He's studying Law and I told him maybe he has issues with divorce because of his childhood, to which he agreed.

In real life, however, he's very affectionate to me; it's so perfect and we both say it! We have told each other we are perfect for each other, and it's endless happiness when we see each other, which is why I'm visiting and his school to hopefully transfer there. I know I'm in love with him. I just don't know why he hasn't been showing affection lately though, although he has been having A LOT of work and has been sleeping at 4 a.m., 5, etc. I guess him texting me means he still likes me, but he hasn't told me he loves me in a week even after I tell him I do.

Now the big question: Could it be that he's losing interest/attachment, or he is just busy? And how can I make him communicate with me and tell me nice things yet not force anything? I don't like forcing things and know I do better with him when I'm myself and honest. I'll be seeing him for a week in about 6 days, but what should I do to keep this going after that? I won't be visiting him again until Thanksgiving, so I'm afraid that a 2-month physical separation might bring out demons. Thank you.