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Guy I like online - how do i talk to him

Postby caught_in_the_rain » Tue Jun 12, 2012 1:27 pm

There is this great awesome guy online that I talk to once in a while that I REALLY like. I mean, he is so different. He is smart, cute, funny, nice. I am having the hardest time talking with him because I have anxiety disorder, and some level of bdd. I would love it if I were "hot" so I could show off for him and make him want me. I can't even show my picture because I'm not ugly, i'm attractive but my pictures are horrible. How do I keep his attention? I really respect and like him and I want him in my life somehow. I want to meet him one day. With him, I'm so embarrassed about my issues too, whereas I usually don't care what people think. i don't want him to know i'm "wierd". you know what i mean? i'm not saying peopel with this stuff is weird, i'm just embarrassed.
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Re: Guy I like online - how do i talk to him

Postby CimmerianFlaneur » Tue Jun 12, 2012 10:29 pm

You mentioned a boyfriend in your other post. Is this the same guy? Or do you just like this guy platonically?

I wouldn't judge you for being interested in two guys; just trying to figure out where you are coming from emotionally first.

As for the other part, this isn't going to be a popular opinion, but I would say just put yourself out there and let him come to you. Make a tumblr where you can express yourself well, put up pics you like, etc. If he's attracted to you, he'll come to you. You can't make a guy like you, and why would you want to try? That doesn't increase your pleasure at all.
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Re: Guy I like online - how do i talk to him

Postby whybother » Wed Jun 13, 2012 12:35 am

Hello caught_in_the_rain,

For many years I have reckoned that if someone got 6 of their friends together and asked them to write down the defination of a good looking partner, you'd end up with at least eight different answers.

Which makes the defination of beauty subjective ......

As such I can't help wondering who told you, you were not beautiful ? And why have you accepted what they say ?

As for the other part I am also inclined to agreee with CimmerianFlaneur. I would let this guy know. But not until your comfortable.

If he does not accept that part of you, alas, he is not for you.
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