Would you stay friends with someone who has friend zoned you

I am just interested to know what people would do in this situation. If you liked someone and got on well and you felt quite attracted to them and told them how you feel and they reply "I only see you as a friend, sorry, I know it may not be what you want to hear, but I am best being straight up" - would you remain friends? I mean it is pretty hard liking someone and knowing you are only a friend and then seeing them interested in others romantically.
But then on the other hand, there is nothing wrong with someone not being attracted to you, we all like different things, isn't it somewhat spiteful to no longer want to be friends because they like something different to yourself?
And is there not a chance that if you stayed friends and got on really well that maybe something could still happen, especially after drinks?

What would you do in such a situation?

From personal experience yes. Why? Because eventually I got in to their pants. Patience pays off.

For me there is no one answer. It really depends on the situation, but...

A lesson I've hard to learn the hard way - not to entirely confuse my internal issues and wants with someone else. What I mean is many of us have been through that 'I really like and have feelings for someone' emotions, even though the relationship is just a friendship in the mind of the other person. In retrospect I realize that's not a very healthy thing to do myself, and by reality checking myself earlier on, I'm less likely to build up a fantasy and emotions that are not only not reciprocated, but not based on reality. What I mean by that is -

This forum for example is full of stories of "I was in love but then I really go to know him/her and OMG!" Problem then is they never were in love with the person. They were in love with a fantasy version of the person. So I'm slower to let my mind and emotions run away on me to begin with. Take time to get to know them. Check earlier if there is any mutual connection there. If not, like you wrote, that's okay. Better to find out before it becomes a 1-sided romance.

Just my personal take

X-Dude, your reply is excellent! Almosrt like a Sage

I do have a question though: What about if the other person behaves as if you're in a relationship, giving you all the signal that you're an item, but tells you "you're my best friend, you're my security blanket". Where does that leave the other party??

I did stay friends- we remained very close and this is still the person who knows me best and I trust with everything- in 2001 I was chasing him like a teenage crush. !0 years later the roles reversed! Now I am all about keeping it friends. I keep it at friends despite the open invitation to change all that.
Good honest relationships are hard to find

Kirstine95 wrote:I do have a question though: What about if the other person behaves as if you're in a relationship, giving you all the signal that you're an item, but tells you "you're my best friend, you're my security blanket". Where does that leave the other party??

It's not possible to know what someone else is thinking/feeling beyond what they are willing to share. It's easy to let our thoughts about what another person is thinking/feeling run-away on us, but that rarely leads to any real understanding of them.

At face value then, keeping in mind I don't know the actual situation, it could be this is someone who is being very flirtatious, but wants to keep it a friendship.

Keep in mind though I am biased. What I mean is that I'm personally somewhat wary of people who are excessively flirtatious. It may just be something they do for the attention they receive (for the ego strokes). It doesn't necessarily mean they are actually able to share/give at a deeper level in a relationship.

I went from friend to g/f and then friend zoned twice in one year by the same man and he thought I'd fall for it again. Uh no....If I were such a "friend" he would have never played on my emotions the 2nd time. You don't go from loving someone, and talking about marriage one day to friend zone the next twice! I got attached sure, but who wouldn't when you have a man spoon feeding you lies about a future together. I loved this man with all of my heart, only to have him manipulate me into getting what he wanted... attention, sex, and a life without solitude. I'm not a "have your cake and eat it too" kinda woman. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice shame on me....won't be a third!


Lesson Learned: I, myself refuse to do it again!

If I want to be with someone that means I already consider them someone I want in my life in close proximity & long-term. We have to have developed a meaningful friendship (or some other kind of bond) in order for me to feel that way. I don't date people for looks. If I don't cherish the bond we already have, why would I make them my partner? So if they decide they never want to take the relationship to romantic &/or sexual level, I'm not gonna throw a tantrum by throwing away what we do have just because it's not everything I want. I don't take good relationships for granted. I've been in love with my best friend for 8 years. I'm happy with our friendship. I'm happy to have him in my life. I'm not gonna abandon a wonderful reality just because it isn't identical to my fantasies.

I would be pretty upset if I knew a friend of mine were hoping for a day we get drunk together & do god-knows-what. Just appreciate what you have. Friendship is extremely valuable.