I need HELP! Please give me some advice?

Hi, my name is Laura and I am xx yrs old.I really need some kind of advice because I'm totally stuck and I don't know what to do.

Well my problem is a boy, hes 16 and he is my boyfriend. We have broken up and got back together 10 times. 9 of those times I broke up with him and he begged for me back. I think we pretty much drive each other insane but we cannot be apart. Well, what I am having problems with now is him lying to me. I am so paranoid I always feel like he's lying because he has before. I am very against drugs, and one night he did weed. I was really upset. Then the next night he had a party... and you can guess what happened again. That night he SWORE that he wouldn't do anything. He went completely against me and did it anyway. I tell him now all the time that I'm scared when he is with those friends. At first he seemed to get it.. but i keep pestering him about it and hes getting really annoyed with it. The other night he completely flipped out and started yelling at me to "Calm the F*** down I'm not going to do drugs" but i DON'T KNOW THAT he already lied to me once whats stopping him from doing it again?? I am so scared and i have no clue what to do. People always say "you should just talk to him" but i cant because of what will happen and how angry he will get. He also says he HATES all of my friends. Just because they are my friends I don't know why but he does. He always has an excuse like "shes ugly.. or a whore" or "your flirty" and I've been told that he's abusive... and in a way i know that but I am not going to break up with him again. But its tearing me apart i cry every single day because i feel so alone and i don't know what to do. I want to talk to him about it but I've tried so many times and he doesn't understand he says i am up tight and i just need to chill...

So that's all if someone could PLEASE give me some kind of advice that would be nice.. thank you.

Hi Lauraly,

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I know how much it hurts being lied to...A relationship will never last if you cannot trust the person you're with, right?
This boy DOES sound abusive.
Please don't put with his bad behavior or make excuses for him.
You deserve so much better.

Please take care of yourself.
*hugs* and well wishes,

Evol

Sorry about your situation right now. Evol is right! relationship will not work if you don't have the trust in your partner. I think you gave to much already to your boyfriend and sounds like he is abusing already the chances you gave him.

Think many times? Does he really love you for ignoring your concern? Does he care when you want to stop his vices for his own good? If you think it's not to much to ask but he can't even do that, then I think you need stop the relationship. He won't realize your worth because you he knew that even you break up on him you will still accept him just saying sorry. Give him a lesson this time. He needs to realize what life would be without you.

Think for yourself this time! You deserve someone better. Someone who will accept your friends and who can give value to the so called "relationship".

Hun, I think you have an idea yourself that this guy is no good for you. It's very important that you're safe, and not in a situation where he can be abusive towards you, or where there may be access to drugs.

The idea of breaking up can be painful, and scary, but you'd be saving yourself so much more pain in the long term. It would be a good idea to find time to be with your friends, find lots of fun things to do with them, and boost your self esteem. You're valuable and worthy and you deserve to be treated with respect.