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Cuckold Fetish

Postby dconway84 » Thu Jan 06, 2011 4:32 pm

I just thought that I would post this to give others advice. I have dealt with a humiliation fetish since as long as I can remember, due to an incident when I was 4 years old in which my sister made me wear her dress and then laughed at me and told me she was going to tell anyone. Well, flash forward to age 18. My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex-boyfriend, and that's when my cuckold fetish developed. I thought that these fetishes were okay, and that I would find a girl who accepted them. The next girlfriend that I told was a girl I met my senior year in college. She seemed alright with it when I shared it with her, which was probably a year after we started dating, and indulged me, but it became much more than that. I always had to take it one step further. Every time after I orgasmed, a felt incredible shame and guilt for asking her to do it, but I thought that our relationship would be okay. She eventually cheated on me, and left me in pieces for another man. It took me well over a year to get over it, and I met someone else. I decided this time, that I was going to be very upfront about it. I told her probably a month in about my humiliation fetish, and we jumped in with both feet, so to speak. She seemed to be okay with it, and after a year of dating we moved in together. Four months later, we break up, she tells me that it repulsed her and it was the reason for our break-up. What I am getting at here, is that if you have these fantasies, SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP. They are extremely destructive to relationships, and don't be deluded thinking that you will find someone who will "put up" with your fetish forever. I have had countless bouts of depression and extreme suicidal thoughts because of this, repeatedly losing amazing women who I loved entirely. Sharing these fantasies with your significant other will only cause them to eventually lose respect for you, and you will suffer heartbreak in the process. It is extremely selfish, and will hurt those that you love. I understand now that the loss of my past girlfriends was my fault alone for introducing this fetish, and will NOT do so in the future. I guess what I'm saying is, if you think that it will be okay to share because they love you, DONT. The ones that really love you will continue to do things for you that they don't want, because they care about you, but eventually just start looking elsewhere. Get over these with the assistance of a sex therapist, because it will only get worse.
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Re: Cuckold Fetish

Postby jasmin » Mon Jan 10, 2011 3:36 pm

Dconway, I'm sorry those women left you instead of asking you to change a little and maybe have some therapy so that you could both be happy in your relationship. You didn't deserve it, no matter what your fetish is.
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Re: Cuckold Fetish

Postby nerdmaufia » Tue Mar 08, 2011 9:28 am

Original Poster, I am intrigued to discover that although we have shared the same exact experiences, I have arrived at the extreme opposite conlusion.

My cuckold fetish came as a result of being cheated on. I believe that the sexual fixation, IF FULLY EMBRACED with a calm and comfortable mindset, is a natural coping mechanism.

You need to start dating more open minded people, there are plenty I assure you.

Don't reveal your fantasies to someone until you have a feel for the person. Indulging your fantasies, and then actually making it come true by leaving you for another guy, was the most abusive and irresponsible way of handling your sensitive issue. Not only do I completely blame your girlfriends in your account, because I sympathize so directly with your story, I actually despise these girls. The cuckold is in reality the most powerful, liberated being in a cuckold arrangement. Not only do I have NO shame about my fetish, I am quite proud of it. It has made me a much more confident man, and lover.

Of course you should decide for yourself.
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