Need some advice - I'm a paedophile - tough times man

Hey guys. I've been lurking on this forum for quite some time, but today I decided to make an account so I can actually interact. Most people here seem to be very good people when practically NO ONE in real life is accepting of say a paedophile or necrophile.

So as the title suggests, I'm a pedophile I suppose. But not really. It isn't that simple. I'm attracted to girls aged 5-12, 10-11 being the perfect age. I'm still attracted to girls older than that, but not as much. So I'm not entirely a pedo, but I do obvious have some of these feelings.. I'm also 16. I identify as bisexual. I tend to be attracted to dominant guys preferably older (I have a very submissive personality), but definitely not boys.

Here's what I need advice on:

I understand that there would be dire consequences if I were to do anything with a young girl. I believe that kids are not able to consent to such acts (asides maybe when they're around 12 and older because at that age for me I was very self-aware and mature enough to date). I know it's not necessarily illegal, but I doubt a judge would think kindly of a 16 year old who messed around with 11-12 year old, so I definitely WILL control myself and not do anything. Basically, this girl on my bus keeps passing me notes. She's really adorable and sweet. I won't go into detail, but those notes really touched me. I've only responded to one note. The response was minimal. On the bus today she called me name as I walked past her but I pretended not to hear. As you can see, I am doing a good job at restraining myself. But I have decided that I want to become friends with her because I know what it's like to look up to someone so much at that age and be ignored by them. She's about 11. As I stated before, I will never mess with her. I am confident in my ability to not touch girls (I have even been successful at that with relationships with girls my age; they were pretty but I didn't feel the passion that they felt...).

Sorry if my paragraphs aren't the smoothest to read. I really don't want to come off as a bad person because of this. I just needed a place to let this out, and there are not really any places for people like us. It honestly kills me when there's someone who's perfect and likes me but I can't have them. Her last note also had an apology "if I didn't like her" - that killed me even more.

Thanks for reading (if anyone actually read this). Please respond if you'd like. It would help me a lot. I'm open to chatting if anyone wants to, so feel free to shoot me a message

-Red Fire

Welcome to the teenage pedophile club bro. I'm 17, and I discovered my attraction to young boys a few months ago. The early stages of coming to terms with your attractions are tough times, indeed. Once you fully accept it as just a part of who you are, and not some horrible curse, it becomes much easier. At least it did for me.

I regards to this girl, I say if you're confident in your self control, than go ahead and be friends with her! There's no need to ignore her. I'm of the belief that most pedophiles can handle being around children and can be a positive influence in childrens lives.
I'm tired so I'm gonna keep this short. If you ever wanna talk, feel free to message me! I've been looking for other people my age to chat with

Wow, you sound a LOT like me. I'm a 17yo, bisexual, non-exclusive pedophile, and my age range is almost identical to yours. We should be friends.

I'm sorry to hear about your problems with this girl. However, she seems to really like you. I don't think you should push her away. It's perfectly fine to be friends with her. I wish I could say that you were safe to pursue more than that (not even more sexual per se; more like a platonic romance), but I sadly cannot, both due to forum rules and due to uncertainty as to how your peers would view it.
In any case, tell her how you feel and then you two can sit down and talk about it.

(And yes, I'd luv to chat).

You just described a fear of mine. A girl you're in to likes you back, and is hurt by your efforts at maintaining distance. My heart goes out to you.

At this point, it might be a good idea to tell her the truth. You like her, but you're afraid of how it would look. You're afraid she'd get picked on or worse.

Maybe after you say that, she'll stop pursuing you. Maybe she'll insist that she still wants to pursue a relationship and you'll have to deal with that, but at least you'll be dealing honestly with one another. Either way, it can't be worse than her thinking you don't like her. It sounds painful to the both of you.

And isn't the whole point of not molesting kids because we don't want to contribute to suffering?

I think you should try to be at least friends with her, unless you're worried about how it would look to other people.
You could try to get to know her better and see if you have any things in common.

Thanks for all the responses. I'll be 17 quite soon actually. I'm really happy to see that there are people like me out there. Imagine a student trying to start a pedophilia support group at school; I doubt that would work. It's pretty stupid of society to have so little support for pedophiles when all it can do is help them.

I really hate considering myself a pedophile, especially since I still am sometimes attracted to people my age and above, but I really don't think these feelings will go away too. I don't want to be the "scum of the earth." This really adds to my depression and bad self image.

The girls I'm attracted to are even younger than the ones you find attractive. I don't consider myself "the scum of the earth".

You mentioned you've been lurking for a while, but it's probably worth it to repeat the refrain I've been giving all along:

Pedophiles are not the same thing as child molesters. The overwhelming majority of pedophiles never molest a child. The overwhelming majority of child molesters are not pedophiles to begin with.

There is no reason for you to be afraid of or ashamed of your thoughts. Your actions are what matters, and remaining celibate in the absence of consenting partners isn't as difficult as our enemies like to pretend.