by jeebo » Fri Sep 08, 2017 12:59 am
Hello guys
I hope you are all doing well and getting on with life in good ways.
I think that what you are suffering is a habit caused by emotional needs not being met in some way or another. The initial poster identified where the habit came from in their case. In order to move on from this habit, you need to stop kicking yourself for having it in the first place! Accept that this is a normal part of life and a reaction to something you had no control over. Now, identify the areas in your life that you are missing emotional stimulation, do you feel lonely, bored, unworthy? Look at other people, how do they get stimulation in these areas? Watch everyday people and try to understand their own needs and learn the ways in which your needs can be met in "mainstream" ways.
It is easy to look at others through rose tinted glasses, but nobody gets their emotional needs met 100% of the time, and sometimes you have to fulfil your own emotional needs, it can not always be done by others!
And I think like people have said previously - people are always happier that you're telling the truth and actually healthy, than they care about some lies you've told. And if they don't then they aren't worthy of your time. Don't be ashamed, your feelings are valid, what you are experiencing is valid, your behaviour is valid otherwise this wouldn't be a thing.
Wish you all the luck in the world guys.