Overuse and Incorrect Use of Ellipses - PD trait?

So I've been noticing that my HPD has a severe problem with misuse of the ellipsis. Particularly overuse, incorrect use, and putting it in random places that absolutely don't belong. It's so significant that many people who have access to the things she writes (whether on social network sites or emails) have indicated that it's annoying and sometimes a little disturbing.

Let me give you a few examples from emails. I do notice that it becomes more prevalent when she is in "crazy mode":

Present day...two days ago...I almost die from a wasp sting...and still recovering...and call you on the phone because I am thinking about what is important in life...your response...cold...irritated...ask me about this week...as I tell you...you suggest I get a second job...wtf?

(PS? Complete overdramatization of her "sting", and demonizing me for not showering her with praise. Not surprising.)

I almost died on 10/01.2008...and again on 10/10/2008...and am still not out of the woods...but...the most important realization is not that I almost died...(and still may...mortality...is not FUN)...but that I learned this week...that my most important relationship HAD DIED LONG AGO...the one with you...

I am a failure for you not learning that lesson...otherwise...I am a success for having perspective on what's important. Only love matters...only life matters....money...means nothing. And obviously...you think it will calm your fears...how sad.

And my personal favorite:

true...it is the hardest loss of all...and true...I don't know if I will survive it...but I spoke the truth...I can't do it anymore...

I nearly died last week and have been sick all week...and yet...this has week been all about you and your bills...so...be...it...I don't need your view on perspective...mine is clear from my 50 year old ailing vantagepoint...yours seems to be clear from your 27 year old...limited life experience vantagepoint...

and it is clear...that...

and we both lose...

(these last two were in response to my asking her if she was going to pay back the credit cards she'd taken out in my name. She reduced it to loyalty and love and said i was sick for caring more about money than her feelings.)

I have looked for psychological associations with this kind of thing, but most of the time I just find blogs angrily bemoaning the state of grammar today. Nothing to indicate a correlation with any psychological issues. Thoughts?

One of the DSM criteria for HPD is "impressionistic style". Lots of ellipses reads like the usual impressionistic spoken English that HPDs use, always trailing off and leaving things half-unsaid. Once emotion is conveyed by tone in the first half of the sentence the rest of the words aren't that important, are they? They also use it a lot to insinuate things while maintaining plausible deniability.

TaylorPie,

My HPD used this type of communication regularly, especially through text messages. When she was feeling vulnerable or trying to manipulate more of my time, she would use these dramatic phrases, always packed with a punch, and meant to illicit feelings of urgency so I would be forced to respond.

They particularly like to use the death card and the symbolism behind it. Sprinkle in some guilt, fear, or anything they think will work, and the goal is for you to be their emotional slave. It doesn't matter to them how this affects you, just as long as they can control and ensure the supply.

Congrats on catching this and seeing right through it

Although my ex didn't use ellipses so much, he definitely had that style of writing. Very impressionistic, with looooong strangely punctuated sentences.

In fact, I can always tell the HPDs posting on here by their writing style.

There was a post maybe 6 months ago on this same subject. I remember because ever since then, I have been very self conscious about my use of the ellipsis. c

Caro - same here! My HPD husband's last text to me (the day before he departed to find a new life with his new woman in Singapore) read - and I quote verbatim : "this is not an excuse ..... and I know I don't show it, but bad news seems to follow me around, so please stop trying to pick a fight"..

This was in response to a phone conversation (where he had hung up on me) when I got made as he had offered my help (without checking with me first if this was ok) to the wife of one of his friends who was in hospital having treatment for lymphoma cancer. The fact that he would be a million miles away within 48 hours of this offer, and that he had volunteered me without checking or asking if that was ok, and the fact that I am not that close to this particular couple - the guy is an ex-colleague of his from work - meant nothing. All he wanted to do was to be able to reflect himself in their eyes that he was a caring and giving kind of person. So when I got mad and asked why he had not had the good grace to ask me first, his reaction was to slam the phone down and then half an hour later sent that text. Always always alway all about poor little him!

p.s. Earlier that month a close member of his family had also received a cancer diagnosis - but that was of no relevance to the situation we were discussing.