In-patient treatment?

So I've got yet another question..
I was wondering.. We were in-patient for a while (about 5 months) a year ago and we were told, several times, "people with DID shouldn't be in-patient", "it's not good for people with DID to be in-patient" etc but no one could really answer when we asked "why?". Obviously it's always good to stay as stable as possible and manage ones own life by oneself. But when that isn't an option and we're not stable at all, why shouldn't we (the general did community, I mean) be in-patient, while other groups ought to?

I guess I'm just missing something but I thought I'd ask.

It's not good for people with DID to be in-patient in a hospital unit where the staff believe this. So, don't go back there!

Some people with DID are helped by going in-patient around trauma anniversaries. Or to deal with certain difficult alters. Or to get intensive therapy if their life situation is such that appropriate therapy is not feasible at home.

Haha thanks. We'll do our best But in all seriousness - thank you for answering. They've had loads of theories there about DID.. One of the not so fun parts were for instance:
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If "an alter" was out they had to stay in the room. Only the host was allowed to leave the bedroom+bathroom (which I assume are triggering rooms for more people than us) and were promptly told to switch back. Child alters were treated the same way, though usually with even more uncomfortable and hurtful comments. Ana was told to "take a permanent vacation" for instance. If an alter asked for food, cigarettes, anything like that they were told no and were told to switch (even for short-term emergency admittances). If they did not switch fast enough we were then not provided with food (unless we had a particularly nice employee who would break the rules). We also had several instances where the doctors told us to not "believe everything your therapist tells you.." (referring to her diagnosis of DID) and things like that as well. And these are just a few examples unfortunately...
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Thing is, this is the only mental hospital around here and it's huge (has loads of units and is spread to several sides of town etc as well) but in all the units we've been (for those with traumas, for emergency admittance etc) it's been pretty much the same. It's the norm here. And the treatment described is also true for the units that actually believe in DID.

I don't know why I hadn't though it might just be something they believe without having much to back it up when there's been so many ######6 mistakes made by them both with us and others, but I guess I just try to believe until they are proved wrong.

But yeah, we're trying to stay out and we've been stable for quite some time now

Holy crap, that's even worse! They are re-enacting exactly the kind of dysfunctional family environment that creates DID in the first place. Isolating and withholding food from and rejecting "unwanted" alters, etc. The message they send is: keep inside all "undesirable" parts of yourself.

Yes, absolutely..! That is exactly what it felt like! I've not been so clear about why it felt so wrong but that is it: it felt much like being home. It was horrible, honestly. We've spent about 6 months in there total. We went from pretty functional (but with severe ocd) to **trigger warning** being suicidal and attempting suicide several times **trigger warning end**. It was not a pleasant experience.

To name another example of definite not-okay things to do to a patient was
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the doctor who, because we had self-injured, decided to stitch us 1) without any anesthesia of any kind and 2) in a glass office where everyone walking by could see us. It was humiliating and painful (we used to self-injure very severely) and not sanitary (the room was just a normal office for meetings, not in any way having to do with doctor or doctor things). He told us bluntly that "when you can do that to yourself you can better deal with this" and "maybe this'll teach you not to do it again then?!". It didn't. It taught us nothing except made us feel worthless. We've had several doctor's treat us with so little respect and it really did feel a lot like being at home at times. We have anorexia and have been deprived of food since infancy. Having them withhold food, with them knowing our history, felt very hurtful and re-traumatizing.
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It honestly took a long time after being released from there to find more stability again, but thankfully we are now in a good place emotionally and have been for a while