Therapist went bye-bye

I received a called yesterday morning and we were told that my therapist left the agency that we are getting treatment through. No goodbye, go screw yourself, nothing! To say the least there is a shock effect and we all feel like crying but fighting it because we know if we start crying we are going to lose it. We felt we were actually getting to a point of trust but now that is blown to hell and have to start over.
About eight-thirty last night we got a call that we have been assigned a new therapist, it is a female. We see her on Thursday evening. We are so upset and sick having to go though the dance again. It’s too much to handle and deal with and we can hardly breathe from the stress.
We did ask if our last therapist left case notes and were told he did. We are frightened as hell what are in them for the next therapist to see. We/I do not know if we can do this it just hurts to bad to have to go through this again and be open the way we need to be.
We are feeling trap and that is when it can get dangerous. I/We cannot help but feel lost and that we are at the edge of losing it.
Clair wants to running away, Thomas Lee just wants to go blast them and tell them what stupid S#$%heads they are. The saddest part is, my little one, Tommy is wild eyed and terrified and will not come out of the corner.
We can’t breathe!
It hurts!
Can’t find our way out of this trap!
Just feeling so tired…….

Uh oh. When a therapist leaves suddenly like that, it's a pretty good sign of a significant problem in the therapist's personal life.

Starting over won't be nearly as hard as starting the first time. It will be okay. You'll get through it.

Maybe the new T will be better than the old one.

Good luck.

We have to see another T while ours is on vacation, and we are scared too.

I am so sorry.

I'm so sorry that happened watcheroflights. I would feel very hurt and abandoned. But as Una said, this sounds like something personal and obviously very important for the therapist, something in their personal life. I'm not saying this is you, but in my case, it's difficult to remember that my therapist is a real person, that she has her own life to manage. I would freak if I ran into her in the grocery store. We shell out so many of our innermost thoughts and experiences with them, but never hear anything about what is happening in their lives. What I'm trying to say is, that this had nothing to do with you. He had to attend to his own life. I hope, for your sake, he will contact you personally so that you can have some closure. If he doesn't though, please remember that it is not your fault, and as long as you are able to communicate with others, the possibility of forming new healthy relationships in the future is strong.

My old therapist suggested I go to someone else because she did not do EMDR and basically could not keep up with me. I was her first DID patient, even though her specialty was dissociative disorders.

It worked out for the best and I ADORE who I am with now. He is certainly not playing catch up. He seems to know everything about everything! I get correct answers to all I wonder and want to know.

I hope the same happens for you and this all turns out for the best.

If your T left like that most likely he was in a difficult situation. Don't take it personal.

I'm so sorry to hear of your T. I have gone through many and know the difficulty in the change once you've become open and honest with one.

I hope your new T will earn your trust and honesty right away for your system's sake.

Good luck.

Hey watcher, I'm so sorry to hear about your therapist leaving that must be really hard. The only thing I can relate to is how frustrating it is having to explain yourself to a new person alll over again but like everyone else said it could always be for the better, you never know I've never really stuck with one therapist because they've always bored me or I thought maybe I was smarter than they were or they didn't understand. One to three sessions was my max, except this therapist I'm seeing now and it's been over a year and I'm closer than ever to getting the real help I need, finally, so I can't imagine him all of a sudden not seeing patients anymore. Hopefully you have enough support here in the meantime while you build some trust with your new therapist and just try and stay positive.

so sorry