i believe my girlfriend has DID

over the couple years i knew my girlfriend i learned alot about her. we are very close and deeply in love.i want to talk to someone about DID so can possibly seek help for her.also to help her myself.ive been trying to help since i discovered DID. her family doesnt know she has it. but i do because i took the time to research her systems. she doesnt think she has this disorder after i tryed to explain it to her, and sometimes she forgets the important convos we have... so i want to discus her to someone that can help me.i would add more details then.

Which country are you in?

Bourbon

I am in the united states. Im willing to tell my story bout her if anyone is willing to listen and help..

Sure, tell and we'll listen and try to help.

i am going to try to not write a 10 page story so imma add stuff as the thread goes on.ok my girlfriends name is bria. i knew her for at lease two years now.months later i notice things bout her that seemed pretty odd.she had these mood swings,panic attacks,she was scared bout little things ,like the dark ,clowns and etc.i always wonder why.and most importantly she was scared of the closet.she had these dreams ,she told me the people in her dreams all looked like her,but she says they are not her.then eventually i met her first alter "Bethony".this is her main alter and the one that comes out most...later on i meet more and more alters,the second was "Merris". i forgot some of the other alters names and some dont have names.i learned that she had a pretty bad child hood and what not.and alot of it makes sense.especially why she is scared of the closet... one important thing is she loses her memory alot.i believe is is dissociative amnesia?i can elaborate on that later. ive been able to hold a convo with her alters and sometimes they randomly switch back to bria.bethony always try to hurt bria.and merris is very angry and likes to roam around the city... i know why merris is there.but im not to sure why bethony is here.but i do know why she has DID.it sucks cause her fam isnt all that wise i should say.they dont know whats really wrong with her.when she trips out they either give her a shot or give her pills.which i think isnt the right thing to do.because of all of this our relationship is no where close to normal.i try to help her the best i can.... i can say more if im asked questions

"when she trips out"

What does that mean? Is the medication that her family gives her prescribed by a doctor? Is she diagnosed with anything? Does your girlfriend know she has DID? X

trips out as in, she "shifts" to an alter,panic/anxiety attack.or when she gets really depressed.now im not to sure if the medicine she takes from her family is subscribed.but im quite sure it is.as of lately her mom or aunty gives her shots in the arm or leg.this helps her calm down and everything gets all slow for her. on another note she does have a drug problem as well.she has been to a doctor before and she told me that the doc said she may have schizophrenia and two other disorders i never herd of.i know was a disorder about wanting to cut off a limp.but i told her this doc wasnt right. reading up on DID i herd people with DID are often misdiagnosed with other things most commonly with schizophrenia. now i told her numerous times of what she had but she always loses her memory.but she always tells me "whats wrong with me" and i tryed to tell her once and she was like "no its not dissociative watever!"so she doesnt really believe me.but when i start to tell her her symptoms she always freaks out with a panic attack then says she is crazy.its quite frustrated...

If she's not ready to know about the DID you are maybe making things worse trying to get her to accept it. Maybe it would be better to just try to get to know each of the alters.

I'd say the best thing you could do is encourage your girlfriend to get help for the drug problem, because whatever it is that's wrong with her, a drug problem isn't going to help. It would also make diagnosis more difficult, because of doctors not knowing what was symptoms and what was the effects of the drugs.

You could also encourage her to learn relaxation techniques for when she has a panic attack. Check with her if she has prescribed medication to take in this situation, or if her family are giving her goodness-knows-what. If she doesn't have prescribed medication perhaps she could see her doctor to tell about the panic attacks and get some.

Your girlfriend sounds in a real mess, you're not going to be able to fix things for her, all you can do is help and support her. It's not clear if her family are helping or causing further abuse. I don't know what else to say. X

yea your prolly right.the thing is her alters dont come out as much since this one day.we got into an argument and we broke up.then bethony came out.she was out for some hrs.the longest she been out.it took 2 weeks for bria to come back.she didnt know what happened in the last two weeks at all.and she forgot all bout her alters.but as of last month bethony is showing up again.but she doesnt come nearly as much as she use to so i cant have conversations with her like before.

yea,she does have a therapist now.but its not for her drug problem.even though she told her mom she wants help for her drug problem.what her mom did was appointed a close friend of hers which is a therapist.or at lease she is attempting to be.since she is a close friend of her moms,she doesnt tell her "Everything".but she does love her therapist but i dont think its gonna help her with her DID problems,just with other things she has going on.

i have taught her breathing teqniques(spell) which worked with her numerous of times,and one time when she had a panic attack i just held her.and she was good after while.her mom doesnt seem to take her problems to serious prolly because they are used to it.and her and her mom have their issues from time to time.so when she starts to trips ,the mother just gives her a shot and call it a day.which frustrates me.

yea i know i cant fix her,im only trying to support her and help her.but as of today the older she gets the worst it gets.her mind is highly unstaple. she constantly loses her memory.and one time she was meditating with her therapist,black out,and woke up a whole new person. i dont think that is a normal part of meditation.and living where she lives now isnt helping her,her mom treats her like sh*t,and no one listens to her.so from here intill we move in together i dont see no big improvements happening to her intill she gets diagnosed.

That thing with the therapist is so wrong. Your girlfriend needs an independant professional, not her mums friend. If it is helping to genuinely sort out some problems in your girlfriends life, then I guess it's better than nothing. But it sounds like a potentially bad situation. Is there no way your girlfriend can access an independant therapist?

Does her mum have to be the one who gets her into drug rehab? Can't she go to the doctor and get referred somewhere? Or just go to a rehab place on her own and ask for help? Sorry I don't know how the healthcare system works in the US.

I agree with you that living with her mum doesn't seem to be helping the situation. Do you have plans to move in together soon? Or could your girlfriend move out on her own?

It's good that you've been able to help with the panic attacks. X