procured for sex with a young alter

I believe, after several years of assessing a difficult situation with a multi personalitied man, that I was in fact chosen and then used for the sole purpose of introducing an inexperienced alter to first time sex. I have not yet discussed this with the host as we have not acknowledged that he is in fact DID. I have met several alters, some of which are as young as 5. Is this a common phenomenon amongs multiples? And how should I broach the subject? The young alter, was depressed I think, probably because he had been deprived of the experience. Thanks for your help and advice.

friendtoall wrote:Is this a common phenomenon amongs multiples?

Is it common for our systems to include child alters, aka littles? Yes, absolutely. Is it common for men to want to experience sex, and to sometimes use others for sex? Yes, of course. Is it common for some alters to be virgins who want to experience sex? Yes.

friendtoall wrote:And how should I broach the subject?

Meaning how to let him know that you think he is a multiple? You might blurt it out. You might watch a movie with him that features some subjective experience of DID, then talk with him about it. You might simply address him/them as a group. Refer to his parts in conversation. Speak to them collectively. Speak to them individually, talking through him. You can speak to a part who is not in executive control, and that part may hear you.

I probably havn't explained my situation well enough. I have known that he is a multiple because I have seen and met many alters. The most I was told was that he "changed to fit many circumstances" which at the time seemed a fairly common occurance for everyone and I thought nothing of it. I love this man very much and think that the young me has fallen in love with this young alter (if indeed he is an alter and not the original woken up). I don't even know his name! I have respected this man's right to remain private about his inner world and so have not said anything for 2 years! The problem is, that the young me (I don't think I'm multiple but I have different aspects of the same) is experiencing passionate and romantic love whilst being aware that this man has been educating and advising my young love during the act itself. Can you immagine? How must it feel for this young alter to have someone in his ear guiding his every move. Isn't he being deprived of part of the experience? Eg, the stumbling in the dark part? Moreover, how can I be sure that he is not underage? I'm in a quandry because I have feelings but also a sense of responsibility.