T and safety

I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts in regards to something that happened in our session today. Very disturbed and just wondering if its just me...

So our T knew we switched to a part that is harmful to the body and she just sat there staring saying nothing. After a few minutes she went over to the door and said if the host would like to come forward then we can stay otherwise she was like I need you to leave.

Like she knowingly put us in danger. It was a tough session up til this point and its like she had enough of us. Beyond frustrated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What T do you know would do this...I mean it isn't like our choice when we get triggered and it isn't like we can help it or control it. Like what the f***?????

Are we off our rocker to think she is crazy for doing this to us?

Why did she ask you to leave unless you switched back to the host? Were you being in any way abusive to yourselves, or her? Flat out making an alter unwelcome is not the way to go that is for sure. Sounds like an inexperienced therapist to me.

This sounds very inappropriate. I'm sorry you experienced this. Could you bring it up with her and ask her why she did this?

Do you experience time loss with this alter to your knowledge? Is it possible the alter said or did something? It does sound like you need to bring this up and tell the T you need to know why this happened and explain how unsafe it made you feel.

Hi all, my name is Matt and I'm the part who was out. Thnx all for writing. Yup our T is way not cool if you ask me! She doesn't get us. Yup our host looses time with me but I tell ya I did nothing wrong. All I did was get triggered and came fwd and our T starred at me and then went over to the door opened it and asked me to leave. So rude!!!

The host talked to our T about it and our T is saying we are being controlling and manipulative and doing it on purpose in our sessions. Like no way! She is so crazy!!!! Totally doesn't get the whole DID and switches and triggers.

Something like that happened to me too, so I can relate, some T's just don't get it.
I wasn't even conscious of any alters when it happened, so it was just like my therapist thought I was rude and a bad person even though I never did anything to deserve that. It was very confusing, but I agree, that therapist was out of line for sure.

theClan18 wrote:The host talked to our T about it and our T is saying we are being controlling and manipulative and doing it on purpose in our sessions. Like no way! She is so crazy!!!! Totally doesn't get the whole DID and switches and triggers.

How awful.... sounds like that therapist needs to be dumped and pronto.

I know therapists in England have a duty of care where they have to prevent harm being caused to the client which is why my old one always used to firmly say no hitting (scratching or whatever I was doing) otherwise we'll have to finish the session.

For us the best way of getting around this is to switch to someone else, but if the therapist can help by distracting/diverting to another activity (such as cuddling teddy, colouring etc) then it's much more helpful as they are helping you to find ways that you can help yourself get out of the situation in the future....can you tell them this

I don't think much of your therapist if they told you that as they should never let or make you leave when you are in danger to yourself - mine doesn't like letting me leave when the kids are out as they're not sure if i'll be safe or not.

The therapist's first duty of care is to herself. It sounds to me like when Matt came out this therapist became afraid for her own safety. Perhaps this can be worked through with her, but if she is not willing and able to discuss this openly and objectively, then you need to find another therapist ASAP.

One of my therapists was not able to engage my Alter 2, who carries our anger. When he came too far forward she would stare at a corner of the ceiling. This is better than some other therapists, who became overtly hostile and physically aggressive.