example of the nine step program to communicate with alters

I ve communicated with an abusive alter. If that s what you gonna do, make sure you SET GROUND RULES.
For me these were: ONE at a time, I promised to come on my own too. (Fabio). I set a time (11am), set the chairs ready to be on time. I told him NO violence, NO violent pictures, NO trigger warning blood end triggerwarning.
He was laughin and said he d kill me. I shook it off.

I sat on the chair and started the breathing. He became nervous. HE could feel the body calmin down and he wanted it dead. He wanted to come, but I told him he could only come after the breathin had been done.
He was not at ease. He could tell he was not in control and he wanted that so badly.

Then I pictured him. He started to laugh, cause he s very tall and strong. I told him I wasn t scared. He was surprised at that. I told him <I didn t see him as a monster. Again, surprise. I asked him the three questions: what do you want from me, what do you need from me, how will you feel when you get what you want?

I changed chairs. He was happy to be in control of the body. He laughed again. He answered.
What I want is to rape the little ones. I want to kill you.
What I need is love (I was very surprised at that). He said, I want the children to enjoy the sex as I do but I can t please her (meaning Indie). She screams.
How I will feel after, I will feel loved.

I switched seats immediately. He asked what was gonna happen.
I changed our body in a golden little child wearin a poncho givin him a cuddle, when I visualised her bein filled with feelin loved (answer on the third question). He wanted sex, but I told him to wait. I told him this was a gesture of love. THat children show their love by cuddles and hugs. ANd told him to wait and feel it. He was clumsy but then put his arms around the golden child. They were like that for a while.
He started to cry very soft. This is love too then, he said. I said yes, this is love too. Love is more then sex. ANd he didn t have a hard one anymore.
He changed into a little boy and kept huggin the golden child. He was at peace.
THen he changed into a flower.
A golden flower.
And the bees from the animal world came buzzin, they accessed him as they access flowers and he felt very good with this. I let him be a golden flower in the field, enjoyin the presence of the sun, the other flowers and the bees. I asked if this was okay and it was. In the field Wolf appeared.
I asked him if he was the ally/helper.He said yes. I asked him how he could help me.

I switched chairs.
Wolf replied he would help me to shut the system down.Not to worry. ANd to send me love.
I swithced chairs again. We stared at each other and then watched the stars. They were bright. Host llilked this a lot.
That s where we re goin too, WOlf said. It s gonna be okay.
We spent time as such, I felt loved and secure.
Then I opened my eyes and staid on the chair a little longer

This is so so beautiful, it almost made me cry.
This is amazing progress, and the point of who much of what I've read about abusive alters: they need love and caring and understanding, to show themselves for what they really are.

He seems to be a beautiful flower

He really is. The system is safe now.
Even so, I m keepin the children at the safe place.
I don t want them to know what happened to Elf, Star and Book yet.
I want them to be carefree for now.

He s part of the big flowerfield that the bee enter and he s a t peace now.

I need to rest up for now. Thanks for readin.

Fabio

I'm glad you're keeping the kids safe and that is great about the alter, too.

I hope you get some good rest Thinking of you.

U-Um... Is this the example you were talking about, Nina?