Don't most people hear a response? *trigger*

I'm curious. I've been doing a little more communication work and it all seems to be going well. I do however have a question. I feel so stuck in the dark most of the time. I've recently connected w/ a little girl part and a teenager ( so my T says) but when he talks about them like theyre people I feel like he's stupid and were just crazy making together. I cannot deny m experience though, nothing else has ever made me feel so close to the truth of myself. The two parts came and gone and is been so quite in here....disturbingly so...I feel so alone I don't know what to do. I've read threads on communication and how to get alters/parts to talk is by either thinking or speaking aloud a question and awaiting a response. My question is, doesn't everyone (singletons included) hear or sense a response when they ask themselves something? And if its different from DID/DDNOS then how are the responses different? I'm asking because I've been getting responses and I'm being shown things about why it's so quite in my mind but how can I tell what I'm seeing isn't just an overactive imagination? Thanks for any responses.

I Sometimes get a response. And sometime all I get is silence. Usually, the responses aren't your imagination though. If You ask a question, and get a response, if the response feels like you, chances are it is, or an alter who's mimicking you even.

some clues are that singletons, when they hear responses, they know it's themselves, they know what they're going to say because it's them saying it, they're not really surprised by the response, they think/talk to themselves using words like "I" and "me", not "you" or "we" or "us", and the voice is their's/isn't different.

i'm not saying this is true for absolutely everyone, but these are usually fairly good clues to go by.


it's highly unlikely, very highly unlikely, that your T is "crazy making" with you.


this does not mean, however, that it won't or will not or cannot FEEL or SEEM like it's just you talking to yourself. that's why there's more than one clue to look for. especially vocabulary. any "you's", "we's", separation between yourself and the voice answering you, stuff like that, is usually a big clue for DDNOS-1/DID.


if things have been quiet lately, it could be that your alters are "sleeping", or are in hiding, or are being blocked by someone/something, or you might be blocking them without knowing it, or they might just be very far away/deep inside right now, they could be taking care of stuff inside, there's lots of reasons for alters seeming to disappear, or parts going quiet, and such.



- cassie (age ?)

-- Fri Mar 29, 2013 12:46 am --

and of course, sometimes you don't get a response. sometimes parts/alters can't hear each other. sometimes we try to communicate back but nothing ends up "getting through". sometimes alters/parts don't hear things when they're "sleeping". sometimes they're "too deep" in hiding or too far away. etc.


- cassie (age ?)

You know- that's interesting. Mine generally do not pop out or answer until therapy and then they are lined up!! Unless triggered, of course. From the sound of things on this forum, it seems that at some time or another we all have felt like it's "all made up"... or our therapist is a bit bored and needs an exciting case... not really but sometimes it feels like there's no way it can be true. But yet we know it fits so well! Thinking back to yrs before and how others have told me that I'm like different people. Heard it too many times to ignore.
I do use more pleural forms of pronouns. And I did that before even knowing I could even have this diagnosis. Back to answering oneself: sometimes there's a silent answer or a feeling for the answer. I've asked my husband many times to describe his internal self talk since he's "normal." He says it's a rehearsal of what he plans to say or he's thinking about something/pondering it and contemplating results. He never has a disconnect about where his thoughts end and where they go (if that makes any sense). He doesn't look for another part of himself to answer as it's all in the forefront of his mind. Mine seem to go out there in space and await. Not only thoughts but feelings too. That's a hard one as it seems that singletons know how they feel whereas I do not. I may have multiple reactions to a situation but it may take a week or two to process it. You can see how that creates problems in friendships and relationships!!

Intervals of weeks or even months of "all quiet inside" are normal. Alters pop out and express themselves and then sometimes it's as if they get a lot of new information to think about and the thinking takes them a long while.

When my Alter 2 speaks up there is absolutely no question he is another identity, a part of me who is distinctly "not me". I know it and so do other people.