communication with alters:nine step plan preparation

This is a buddhist meditation, based on lots of research and theory. If you want the full information: the book 'Feedin your demons' is more informative.
The word Demons is BAD CHOSEN. We re NOT talkin to demons but to innerparts. That s the same in the book, only there it describes emotions pain memories things like that.

I ve adapted the nine step plan so you can use it on alters. I m NOT a professional.
Whatever happens, DO TELL Me and I ll see what I can do to help out.

Before we start: this is a nine step plan. This means: it s long to read and take into. SO PRINT it down, read it two to three times before tryin. When you do try, put the print next to your chair.

SO here goes:
If you have delegations or alters who take care of other alters or an hierarchy, talk to them and ask them who wants to join the meditation. Set a date and time and make sure no one can disturb you, no music no tele cell phone on mute.
It will take time, but replies will come.
If there s no one in charge, ask around who wants to ask around for joining.

There s two ways you can go now: you do the meditation with a few or with one. This is up to you. If too many want to join (maximum is eight), spread it over several sessions;They will understand.

As for preparation: make sure you have two chairs facin each other, dim light, paper and pen next to you.

I haven't read the book, but I am quite interested. I based my "therapy-like" sessions with the alters in my system on the buddhist lifestyle. I might talk about them some more I'f I feel less tired. (A burn-out has been bothering me lately)

Is there a pdf (or another extention) of the book? If so, could you maybe send it or give me a link?

X claire

Thank you very much for this! I just made a date and time for us in a few days from now. Until then I'll read up on this. Like Claire asked if there's a file of this book or the steps in full that can be shared, I'd live a copy. Thank you again

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q66Z7dhT97c

this is the writer of the book

remember, this is not a method developed for alter, but for diseases, addictions, fears whatever.

she does explain the basic theory

however if you want to work with it, and you have a burn out, it may be easier to read the the other post about hte exact nine step plan

wishin you much better health

love
Nina11

I've indeed read it, and as soon as I feel better I will try it! Thaks a lot

you re welcome

just because I notice the preparation thread and steps thread are gettin separated, I m gonna post the nine steps here too. So you don t have to look for the other thread.

Read the preparation first.

The first step
Take nine breaths.
Not just quick in and out, no, breathe in for three seconds, hold it and breathe out for four seconds.

The second step: welcome the alters that have agreed to come and visualise them for you and tell them how happy you are they came.

The third step: ask three questions. These questions you ask just once, but they apply to everyone
these are:
What do you want from me?
What do you need from me?
How will you feel when you get what you need?
CHANGE CHAIRS and take pen and paper.

THe fourth step
Every alter answers the questions.
You write down the answer on the THIRD question for everyone. Writin it down is necessary to remember for the other step.
Example:
what do you want from me?
I want you to die
What do you need from me?
recogntion
How wil you feel when you get what you need?
I will feel satisfied.
YOu write down: satisfaction.

Step 5: switch chairs again
Now you give every single alter the answer on the third question.
This would mean in the example:
you give her satisfaction.
How do you do that? you visualise your body as a golden fluid flow, or grains, or grass, or air like, this is up to you. And you focus on the word satisfaction. If the alter for example is an old lady,you can visualise your body becomin a golden cloak to warm her and make her feel satisfied.
Take all your time to do this til the alter feels satisfied.

Now you may wonder well yea what do the other alters do when waitin? You create a waitin space; FOr me that is a yacuzzi where they all sit in and relax and chitchat quiet when the other gets its communication moment.

Step 6
when everyone has recieved their moment and their gift, it is time for your gift. Cause, you,organisin the meetin, are an alter too. So you too have your needs and questions.
How to address this?
When you go through step five, transformations can occur. This is normal. One of the effects is that someone will come to your help to help the other alters.
Now don t be upset if this doesn t happen immediately. We all have inner protection and help and it will show; Remember, this is a complex meditation that I adapted, it takes time.

What could happen for example is, a wolf appears; If so, (after everyone went back to the waitin room or yacuzzi

step 7 ask him if he is the helper.
If so, ask him how you can call upon him and what he will do to help you. Ask this out loud.

Step 8 switch chairs. You let the helper reply the questions.

Step 9
Now it s your turn to recieve. For example, he answered he will love you.
You visualise a golden flow of love comin to you and enter into medititavie silent state.

This may take as long as you feel comfortable with.

When somethin gets scary, goes wrong, doesn t work out as you think it should
be patient
make sure you have candles and sage
and FOCUS ON GIVING.
If the alters get upset for example EVEN when you give what they need to feel okay, ADD IT UP. GIVE MORE THEN THEY ASK.

IT ll show they you care, you validate them, that not only they are wanted and taken care of, that they re even spoilt.

Any questions remarks, try outs, let me know!

Lots of love and luck

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by AliasForAFew » Sun Mar 24, 2013 8:55 pm

Where might one acquire sage? Is that something a spice-rack in the average kitchen might have handy? Where should this and the candle be placed? Does it matter?
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by Nina11 » Sun Mar 24, 2013 9:01 pm

it s not the most important thing.

it s a herb, so it s between the kitchen herbs.

but I d suggest a smudge, it s for sale in spiritual shops. You lit; It does smoke;

white candles, three. On a safe place, near you but not to near, you will be switchin chairs.

This is NOT Major important. I use it to keep away unwanted negative energy.
If you would have that, you can notice by sounds or smells; If that would occur I can talk you through this.

BUT this is HIGHLY unusual so don t worry too much.

If you can t find the smudge or candles, no worries. you can always just give it a try. You ll make mistakes which is fine too. It s a learnin process.

Good luck.

This is exciting! I found ground sage and plenty of white candles to use. I'm really picky when it comes to getting things as close to possible to the steps I'm trying to follow.
Thank you so much again!

you re very welcome

if you find the time to try it out, let me know! I ve recently started and we can learn from each others experiences

I d like to add this is a GREAT way to communicate with abusive alters too

love

Nina11

I have a date and time set. I looked myself (in the mirror) in the eyes and said it out loud and made sure that Eric knows he's all clear to go invite/let others know. I agree that we should share experiences. It'll be beneficial, I'm sure.

That is a major step!

Now daily life can get in the way. Make sure that when someone calls, you say you have to go cause you have an appointment. Very important, appointment, not just an excuse.
It tells everyone in the system AGAIN that this is an appointment for them and that you take this very seriously.

Good luck, am very curious for your news!

I m gonna pick a date too. Prob next week.