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Establishing roles

Postby Frank_Darko » Thu Dec 13, 2012 7:28 pm

I've had quite a positive time recently. I figured whether I have DID, psychosis or something else the fact still remains I have several people in my head, all of which represent parts of myself, and I need to find a way of being content and productive. I don't have a great deal of faith when it comes to therapy so I'm helping myself to "get better". I recently assigned roles to each "alter". Well actually I did this a while ago but I never really stuck to it and so have only recently put it into practice.

Each one of them is helping me with three very important areas of my life and they are guiding me or coaching me in these areas.
Scott is very sociable and outgoing. He makes everyone laugh and constantly gives out positive energy. I, on the other hand, loathe social gatherings. I'm quite solitary and only go out if it's necessary but I realise this can cause problems as I will avoid most forms of socialization and I feel this is cutting me off too much from reality at times. I don't wish to be like Scott but I wish to have more of his abilities. Scott has agreed to help me with social situations, providing me with things to say and so on and is also helping me to figure out what I want from life and in a sense is kind of being a therapist for me.

Theodore is very organised and is very good at motivating. If something needs to be done he'll make sure it's done. Now I make money from my artwork, albeit not a lot, and I'm also an aspiring writer. However I find it incredibly difficult to draw and write these days. I just don't feel it. Ted will be there to try and motivate me and will come up with time plans and realistic goals to help me be more productive.

With Darren I wasn't sure at first what to do with him but I practice lucid dreaming and out of body experiences but recently I've been having a lot of trouble. I learnt recently that Darren has similar interests and he's offered to share different meditation and visualization techniques with me. I feel this will be quite good as maybe it will help us to establish a friendship and not feel so much negativity towards each other.

Now in doing this I won't be switching to any of them. I want this to be me doing these tasks otherwise I don't feel I'll gain anything from it. However if I need to be co-conscious then I will allow them to come out. I made them sign disclaimers telling them what they can and can not do if they use my body.People might feel I'm being a little selfish as what exactly do the alters get out of this? They all seem happy to do this and as they have their own lives that are separate from my body it's not like I am denying them any time out in the real world as they have their own worlds to go to.
So far things have been going really well. I've felt better having Scott there to help in social situations. Ted's pushed me (although not too hard) to get some work done today and even Darren, who I felt wouldn't bother turning up, has actually been helpful.

Well done you. Now get back to work!
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Re: Establishing roles

Postby tomboy24 » Thu Dec 13, 2012 9:54 pm

Whatever works for you, do it! Sounds like a fine agreement to me! I hope it works out well, and it's cool to see that you were all able to figure out a system that you can all agree to. :D


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Re: Establishing roles

Postby lifelongthing » Fri Dec 14, 2012 6:13 am

I'm happy to hear you have found something that works for you and the others :) Good luck with this.
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