Any tips/ideas on how to recognize when I'm losing time?

I mean, I don't know if I am or not. I'm not even sure that I have DID or DDNOS or anything like that. For all I know, I took talking to myself a step too far or I have schizophrenia or some other kind of psychosis.

But let's say I was losing time. How would I be able to know, without someone pointing it out/talking about something I have no recollection of? The reason I ask is because they brush off my questions when I ask them about losing time and if I have, and because if it turns out that I am, I'd feel a lot better about believing that I have DID/DDNOS/something similar.

I'm not sure how to phrase this. He's ignoring the fact that he's watching as his fingers are typing, and that I wrote his whole paragraph for him. But no. He wants us all to come out and meet the family and very possibly mess things up. I've told him before, and I'll say it again, it doesn't matter if we come out or not, it doesn't matter if he knows about it or not. (BTW, there's nothing to know.) What matters is that he's wasting time with this ridiculous post when he should be doing other things, as if strangers on the internet (no disrespect) can help him better then we can.

You seem to have communication with the other parts of your system - the one writing in purple. Just ask them.

One day I just started to ask that if anyone took totally over during the day to ---- raise their hand. This has worked well for me.

Since I have full on black outs without any communication with my alters aside from my journal (and they don't always write in there when they come out), I've found the best bet for me is to consistently check what time it is.

@tylas I cleared things up with him. He thought that because there's better things to talk about then if I came out, that I was avoiding the subject. And what he's asking is almost like a list of every single time I've ever been out, and I obviously don't keep a list like that.

@wronglesson Just wanted to say that he read your reply and will probably be doing that, even though it isn't really necessary.

confused109 wrote:(BTW, there's nothing to know.) What matters is that he's wasting time with this ridiculous post when he should be doing other things, as if strangers on the internet (no disrespect) can help him better then we can.

If there was nothing to know, you wouldn't exist. And I doubt anyone here said or believes we can help him better than you can. That's your whole f*#king purpose, is to help him. But maybe you should consider the fact that the help he's asking for now, the help that he feels he needs now, is to learn more and to be more aware of you guys and sh*t like that. (I mean no disrespect, by the way. I'm just stating observations from posts I've read of his). To him, posting here is not a waste of time, so that should count for something. His feelings, thoughts, and opinions are important just as much as your's are, and they should at least be considered, maybe even tried. It's most likely true that no one could help him better than any of you, but helping him includes doing things that make him feel more at ease, that help him to understand more, things that he's asking for, etc. Maybe you should ask him what he thinks would help him (not saying you're not doing your job, or that you're not doing it well, I'm just saying that maybe you should ask his opinion of it to know more about what he's looking for and what he'd consider to be helpful to him). -KAT

confused109 wrote:I mean, I don't know if I am or not. I'm not even sure that I have DID or DDNOS or anything like that. For all I know, I took talking to myself a step too far or I have schizophrenia or some other kind of psychosis.

But let's say I was losing time. How would I be able to know, without someone pointing it out/talking about something I have no recollection of? The reason I ask is because they brush off my questions when I ask them about losing time and if I have, and because if it turns out that I am, I'd feel a lot better about believing that I have DID/DDNOS/something similar.

I'm no pro, but from the posts I've read of your's, I highly doubt you have schizophrenia or psychosis, and I'm fairly certain you have either DDNOS/DID. This post alone proves it to me, and the previous posts you've made only reinforces what this post pretty much proves: DDNOS/DID is the right direction you should be looking in.

Sometimes, losing time isn't obvious. Cassandra only loses seconds, minutes, rarely anything more, so it's not exactly noticeable. The hosts don't always lose time, either, especially if their system is really co-conscious.

Here's some sh*t Cassandra keeps an eye out for that helps her to realize when she's lost time:
-- Misplaced objects- This is the main sign she looks for now. (Stuff that she can't find, and when she does find it, she doesn't remember putting it there, even if she remembers everything else about that time period/day. For example: She was hanging out with a friend, and she was looking for her lighter. She found it inbetween her crossed legs, kinda under her knee. She was like "What was that doing there?" Her friend replied, "What are you talking about? You always put stuff under your leg. Your phone, your lighter, your pens." Cassandra didn't realize she'd been doing this on a regular basis, and that's because it wasn't her doing it. Turns out, it was Luna).
-- Having no memory of saying something to someone, yet they remember her saying it to them.
-- Having no memory of making plans, usually with someone else, then they ask her about the plans.
-- Feeling "foggy", "out of it", or as if she can't really remember the day/time period (usually, this means she lost time at some point).
-- Feeling as if she can't remember what happened 5 min. ago (usually another sign she's lost time at some point. Disorientation in general is a common sign that we've lost time at some point, even if we didn't realize it or don't feel like we have).

Some sh*t she does to help remember stuff and realize that she's lost time:
-- Keeping notes of plans in her phone (if any plans are missed or she runs late, usually she's lost time).
-- Constantly checking the time.
-- Making a list of where she usually puts things, like her shoes by the doorway, her phone by the bed, etc., so that if there's any changes, that's most likely a sign of lost time.
-- Checking internet history, text history, call history, bank history; checking for missing or extra food/drinks; checking for anything that could've changed, and if it has without her remembering how it changed, usually she's lost time.

Sometimes, it just takes some time to learn/get to know your own personal signs for losing time. Hope sh*t becomes clearer for you soon.

-KAT

Sorry it took so long for me to reply. I definitely know that "foggy", "There, but not there" feeling. Thanks for the reply!

I get foggy too, like I've just woken up from an anaesthetic and start to see the bright lights and noises around me again, and I think 'what just happened' but I can then tell I've switched back at that point.

You know you are losing time when suddenly you find yourself somewhere and you don't remember getting there. It doesn't have to be somewhere new to you, just not where you expected to be. For example, you are standing at the counter prepping dinner POOF! you are standing at the sink washing up after dinner. Do you have "Whoa! WTF just happened?!" moments like that?

Sometimes I'll wake up with no memory of what happened before I went to bed. I've gotten in the habit of trying to remember the last thing I did before I went to bed. I lose time when 2 of my alters switch out (that I know of). I haven't been able to contact those alters internally so I can only assume they want their privacy. I don't try to find out what happened during their periods of control to respect their privacy. I believe they'll address us when they're ready to talk.

When we switch in from having lost time we will usually feel disoriented and get the "What was I about to do?" feeling or feel like we just came back from zoning out, but things are out of place. Anyways my point is knowing you're losing time is probably a good thing but I don't think it's important in every case to know what happened when you lost time.

What happens with me is I'll be zoning out in the car on the way to somewhere, and I'll suddenly "come back". Like all of a sudden I'm there again, I feel "real" and not foggy again, things seem more clear, etc. Except it doesn't just happen in the car, it can happen anywhere. Not sure if that counts.