I have a concern about a child.
I have been Married to a man for the last year who turned on a dime a couple of days after we got married from the kind caring person I got to know to an emotionally distant, cold, uncaring individual. He had no previous relationships prior to me and the first time we attempted physical intimacy he was unable to. And that was the end of that. Refused to have sex after that. I wont go into details of my relationship but I left him a month ago after a year of progressive emotional and psychological abuse.
I am happy to be free of him but since I am out now, I see things so much clearer. He has a sister who split from her husband before I met him. She has a preteen son whom my husband is very close to. He travels to see the boy once every 4 weeks, insists on vacationing with his sister and the boy every single time the boy is with his mother (irrespective of whether I was able to take vacation at the time). Even during the times I have accompanied him, he got annoyed when I would join in on activities that he would take the boy to.he kept trying to get me to hang with his sister while he took the boy to his weekend activities solo. I also was surprised to see how touchy feely he was with the boy, given that I have never seen him be physically affectionate with anyone else-no one in his family and definitely not me.he would constantly hold the boy's hand, stroke his hand, pat his back, put his arms around him and pick him up and the boy would regularly climb into his lap and sit there.the boy has some behavioral issues (texture sensitivity with regard to food, he only eats very very few things, occasional bedwetting, a nervous tic) which have all been explained by my husband and his sister by saying the boys father is a narcissist and was verbally/physically abusive when he lost his temper. I have never met the man and it seemed plausible at the time. Also, although the boy interacts normally with me, his mom and most others, when he interacts with my husband, he seems to regress in behavior to the level of a 3-5 year old (giggly, talking nonsense,repetitive vocalizations and words, sometimes sing song voice) which he does not do with anyone else. And recently, before I decided to leave, when the boy came to visit, my husband went upstairs and slept in the same bed with him both nights he was there.
All these things concern me , but what confuses me is that the boy does not seem scared of him and seems genuinely fond of him.Also, the boy's mother has been privy to most of these behaviors but it does not seem to faze her.
I m not sure- am I over reacting? I dont know what to do.I dont have any hard evidence that there is anything dark going on. Only a sick feeling in my gut and all this circumstantial evidence.