My Emotional Abuse case (need good and serius discussion)

I think that plenty of us will be able to relate to the not being allowed to feel anything..


I'm curious - you say that you can't talk to anyone about this because their reaction would be ''they do this because they care''..

Why would anyone tell you that your dad tells you to shut up and stop displaying emotion because he cares?
Or have I read it wrong and you meant something different?


Can i ask.. how loud exactly are you when weeping or angry? I ask this because I'm thinking about how to answer this question of yours; ''1. What are your suggestions for me in order to cure my self (I want to express my emotion correctly)?''

If at the moment you're able to express emotion, you're able to cry and show that you're angry/cross/miserable.. then you might not need to work on expressing correctly.. (unless oc, you're so loud and animated that you're scaring people around you)

Or has your dad made you stop expressing emotions and you've closed down now?

Number 2 of your questions.. I honestly suggest trying to get out of there rather than dealing with it.. all you can really do if you have no other option is to keep your head down, try and ignore anything that they do that's intended to belittle or hurt you, and start taking steps towards being able to get out of there.

Number 3 of your questions.. maybe start with some reading on something like 'dealing with toxic people', as well as something like 'managing emotions healthily'

seabreezeblue has given you excellent advice. The first thing I'd look to is to try to find a way to get out of there and if it were me, I'd try my best to leave on good terms for the sake of you all at least talking still once you leave. Why? Because if you ever get into a jam, you can come back (only if you absolutely have to.) Like people say, "don't burn your bridges." Not for their sake, but for yours.

I've lived like that as a young 18 year old. I did run away to other family (long story) and found a job and was on my own even while using public transportation to get places. My uncle helped me a lot.

Don't believe for a minute that what you feel or that your opinions are not important, because they are very important. Just like you are very important. I have found a book that has helped me understand feelings and emotions in a positive way that makes sense. It is called Feeling and Healing your Emotions by Conrad Baars. I re-read it lots of times to hopefully imprint some of the facts it explains instead of what I've learned as a child or teen.

Living with such people as you describe brings me memories of living with my mom as a teen and the only way that I could have some kind of semblance of a "normal life," is to just fake it. Fake that you agree with them, fake that you are happy in order to hopefully just make them stop their bad treatment of you. My mom, I felt, took out her anger out on me. It was not right. My only solution was to understand that it was not me who was in the wrong, but her and that she was a bad person. When I eventually moved out, I didn't have to deal with that. I was free of such a toxic life. I don't want you to feel like you must take bad treatment at all, but I want to get across that, with people like them, you will not make them happy and they will always remain the same unless some real change in them happens. They will have the upper hand and they will make your life miserable because they are bad people. It's the truth that they are bad people.

Other than my book that I recommend, I recommend you to be around your friends who support you and make you feel good. Be around others who make you feel like you are a good person.

Let me know what you think. This is all just my thinking and I'm open to back and forth discussion because I know it's a very difficult situation you are in. Hugs if wanted.