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The weekend's reading by Ada on Mon Jun 04, 2012 5:22 pm
Quotes from an interview with psychoanalyst and writer, Adam Phillips:

"I'm not on the side of frustration exactly, so much as the idea that one has to be able to bear frustration in order for satisfaction to be realistic. I'm interested in how the culture of consumer capitalism depends on the idea that we can't bear frustration, so that every time we feel a bit restless or bored or irritable, we eat, say, or we shop.

"It's only in an initial state of privation that you can begin to have thoughts about what it is you might want, to really imagine or picture it. It's very difficult to know what we're frustrated by. In making the case for frustration I want to make it more interesting, such that people can talk or think about it in different ways."

For him, psychoanalysis is a set of stories that we tell ourselves and each other, a way of redescribing our experiences. "To begin with, one needs to understand," he says, "but I think the final project is to relieve oneself of the need for self-knowledge. It's not that it's useless – in some areas of life it's very useful – but there are lots of areas in which it isn't, and in some areas it's actually pre-emptive and defensive, and this is where psychoanalysis potentially fails people, by assuming there is an infinite project and that the best thing you can do in life is to know yourself. Well, I don't think that's true."


"I believe in what you see being most of what there is… and that life's passed on to us empty. So, while significance weighs heavy, that's the most it does. Hidden meaning is all but absent."
:: Richard Ford (from the novel 'Canada'.)

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Scars i want to keep *tw* by sschoemaker on Fri Jul 25, 2014 8:13 am
My mom wants me to get rid of my scars...But i find i really don't want too. I don't not want to wake up and not see them there on my left shoulder, on my left wrist and my right hip bone. Sick? Very,...

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Fighting. by shortsnorts on Mon Jul 21, 2014 6:00 am
I am a victim of sexual abuse. Most of my previous posts were usually pretty short and very vague about my situation. They were mainly used for ranting, so I didn't expect anyone to read them. Then, I...

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Is this weird? I'm having unwanted sexual thoughts and anxiety by Sadcandice on Tue Jul 01, 2014 12:52 am
Hello. I have been diagnosed with anxiety for a few years now. I am a sixteen year old girl, and I often struggle with intrusive thoughts. My latest anxiety has been sexual thoughts, and feeling guilty...

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Am I pervert? by Owlshirt on Mon Jun 30, 2014 3:38 am
Obviously I'm going to know the answer, it's just I want to hear another persons opinion.
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HOW TO DEAL???? I have BPD by Phume on Wed Jun 04, 2014 11:44 am
Im 23, got diagnosed a month ago after a FAILED suicide attempt....

The day I tried to kill...

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Re: Now What? by Hartlepool_lad on Wed Jun 11, 2014 11:32 pm
Hi Hartlepool_lad here, after posting the previous post I have been searching and searching for answers to my condition and what caused it, I am happy(?) to say that I have found one potential reason which...

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Re: Help! I need a new coping skill. by shortsnorts on Tue May 13, 2014 8:56 pm
I heard that can really cause damage because if you pop it too hard, it can break a vein, or something. Also, I don't want to start a new addiction. Thank you for your advice, though. I'll research that...

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Re: Help! I need a new coping skill. by Screenman on Tue May 13, 2014 8:25 pm
A friend of mine used to keep a rubber band around her wrist like a bracelet, and slap her wrist with it whenever she had the urge to self harm. Maybe try that?

Re: HOCD is ruining my life by davidivad on Tue Apr 29, 2014 4:14 pm
i worried about the gay thing once. it was just one thing on a long list of things to worry about and eventually the next big worry came to mind.
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Re: Did I throw away my life? Don't think of me as an awful person! by Anonymous26170 on Sat Nov 09, 2013 6:07 am
One thing that I notice is that when I make up a new world, the more similar it is to reality, the more it confuses me/disrupts my normal life. If I were you and you wanted to continue living in these...

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