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Loving relationship has been destroyed by a PD, help required by Devastated-husband on Fri Dec 28, 2012 10:59 pm
*Trigger* This is a long story but I will try to be as brief as possible. I am very new to forums and anything I say is without judgement of any form of disorder, as I am all to aware of the impact it has on all parties and how the sufferer is impacted. Please do not take any offence as I'm still trying to understand, accept and work with its far reaching concsecuences and would ask all posters to remain non-judgementa. Thank you.

My wife and I have been in a relationship for 16years, married for 4 and have 3 year old Daughter together.

Most of the revelations from the events of the past two months have made me realise that in hindsight my wonderful true love has suffered from more than the diagnosed general anxiety and depression that has been interwoven in our lives for all this time.

Two months ago my mother in-law lost her on/off 10 year battle with cancer. We were all left devastated, but my wife who has always been considered the most emotional member of the family showed little grief, despite being greatly consumed for the entire decade of this fight.

Two days after her passing, my wife had a memorial tattoo and immediately confessed she had fantasised over the artist and made sexual advances towards him. My wife has always despised adultery and we had talked openly about friends who had committed this most "despicable" of acts. My wife has also always been very timid around strangers, sexually unadventurous and incredibly attached to myself. I put this down to the trauma and suggested that some form of therapy for her grief, along with open discussion would help and that I would support her all the way.

The situation became worse on the day of her mothers funeral, as the following day she confessed she had been awake all night sending naked pictures of herself to men she had never met. She made in her own words " throw away " comments that she would be better off dead, how a massive hole was consuming her and how she was unable to love anyone or inflict her "issues" on me anymore.

Her family although unaware of the full facts all agreed she should see her GP immediately, who subsequently referred her directly to A&E. The Doctors fortunately could see the full picture and my wife's reluctance to open up, or even admit she had a problem. They talked to both her sister and I and after discussions at board level, generally agreed she suffered from a personality disorder and offered immediate therapy and support, this has sadly been refused and ignored by my wife.

During this period our daughter was also suffering from pneumonia and my wife was unable to fully cope with this and embarked on offering herself for NSA sex via the Internet, sleeping with 6 unknown men (at least) in a period of weeks, all of the encounters potentially dangerous given the unknown quantity of the individuals and the environments the acts were taking place.

My wife has always suffered from angry outbursts, issues of social acceptance, 'living in and blaming the past', fear of abandonment and an inabilty to focus on positive aspects of life. Its also important to teveak that she was beaten by her father as a child, along with her sister and mother and her fathers family also had a history of sexual abuse, although my wife claims she was never assaulted in this manner.

Whilst this has left me devastated and whilst an exact diagnosis is not possible without therapy and dialogue from my wife, I know the most caring and loving person I fell for all those years ago, now has some form of explanation as to why she feels like this, as do I for the roller coaster relationship we have experienced.

As a footnote, not only does my wife not accept their is a problem with her actions or health, she has also started drinking heavily and vilifies me to anybody that she is able to convince, normally those who have infrequent contact with her or myself and are unaware of the full picture . These individuals are now validating...

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I think my BF has relationship anxiety by lonelylatina17 on Sat Jun 17, 2017 4:02 am
I'm in a long distance relationship for 8 months but we've known each other for 3 years. Recently my BF told me that he is confused about the relationship and he's not sure he wants to be in one. Everything...

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Was I sexually abused? by veglord on Tue Jun 13, 2017 1:31 pm
This is going to be difficult to write. I know that already. Heck, I'm at the first sentence and I've already deleted and rewrote the stuff more times than I'd have liked to. But man, when isn't this $#%^...

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Was it really rape? by lotsofquestions on Mon May 22, 2017 5:14 am
Recently I was at a party where many people were intoxicated, myself included. There was a lot of dancing and girls grinding on guys and groping and whatever else happens on a dance floor probably happened...

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Having trouble knowing if I'm me or someone else. by Pryoproy on Wed May 17, 2017 11:55 am
Is it abonormal that whenever I gain interest in a certain show or game that all of a sudden I drop literally all my other interests and focus mainly on one character in that series/game. It gets so bad...

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I am trapped in my mind , Bipolar II, Excessive Fantasizing by swollenbrain on Tue May 16, 2017 11:31 am
Hi everyone ! I am 30 years old, female and married. My husband is loving and tries his best to keep me happy. I want to highlight my history a little bit. I have bipolar II and am undergoing medication...

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Re: Was it really rape? by Snaga on Mon May 22, 2017 1:39 pm
Consider posting this is Sexual Abuse forum....

And, yes.

Re: I am trapped in my mind , Bipolar II, Excessive Fantasizing by Snaga on Tue May 16, 2017 2:16 pm
Well, instead of the blogs, you might want to think about posting in open forum. But I'm not sure where. Perhaps a start in Living With Mental Illness forum, and then go from there.

I have dabbled,...

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Re: A Vicious Cycle. by Snaga on Fri May 12, 2017 3:54 am
If you're really wanting responses.. the blogs are hit and miss with interaction- think about posting in forum. Perhaps in Depression or Bipolar, to see what folks think....

Re: day 1 by quietaj on Tue Apr 25, 2017 10:20 pm
[quote="Snaga"]Welcome to the blogs![/quote]Thank you!!

Re: day 1 by Snaga on Tue Apr 25, 2017 5:18 am
Welcome to the blogs!

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