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And if it's alright with you I'll just talk about myself

Postby Oliveira » Mon Nov 19, 2012 12:19 pm

Not a very good day.

I went to a doctor from the employment office today. Basically here in Europe how it works is that I am now considered disabled temporarily, and the doctor decides when I can come back to work and in what degree. I had two slightly manic days in a row and felt quite good, but today overslept (almost brand new phone broke -- switched off at night and won't switch on anymore) and so I arrived quite sleepy.

The doctor talked to me, noted down my medication and asked questions. I expected her to be all like "and now go back to work you lazy bastard!!!" and instead she was very caring and nice, and then at the end said, I guess for now there's nothing we can do, I will see you in three months and then contact your doctor to see if we can begin putting you back in the job market.

I am deeply upset by this, because I guess I was still in denial. You know those people who think mental illness isn't real? I think that about my own, even though it tried to kill me and a few times almost succeeded. Recalling my suicide attempt from October (not exactly long time ago) made me depressed and upset, but by now I put it aside as long gone past. I am doing so well now, cycling "only" every 2-3 days. It's so hard for me to admit that yes, I am indeed ill, and that I may be doing better than 3 months ago, but that doesn't mean I am fully functional yet, and it may be a long time for me.

I am not being the man I want to be for my boyfriend or family. I used to be the rich guy giving lavish presents, always there when anybody needed a hand, providing help, being strong and inspiring. Now I am still trying to be that man but it just isn't possible, and it makes me feel both guilty and frustrated. I can't take my boyfriend anywhere, because I have no money. I can't buy my family Xmas presents, because I have no money -- I'll try to send them something small but even that stretches my budget. I can't be strong. I have to admit defeat. And that is not something I am good at.

The guilt, too... I feel like I am not enough for my boyfriend and family. I want to be the one people can count on; not the one that needs to count on people. My vanity gets a kicking from every direction at the moment. I said to a guy whose workshop I sometimes work at that I'll come over and help him install a gate. Well, instead of that I am at home, depressed, trying unsuccessfully to drag myself to the gym. I want to do things, to achieve things, to recover and conquer the world again. I have no wish to sit on my ass being sad. When Ian posts about full recovery? Nothing less will satisfy me, and I want it NOW. Instead, the longer I see doctors and talk to them, the further away it seems to be drifting, and the fact that I am now sitting here depressed after having had a great weekend of course proves that I am not exactly fine yet.

Hug please?

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Re: And if it's alright with you I'll just talk about myself

Postby Ian Reynir » Mon Nov 19, 2012 3:32 pm

Hey - I feel your pain. It was only a few years back when I was in a similarly difficult situation. I was out of work for a few months and I was sending out my applications for work. It was a hard time to be motivated to do anything.

I really hope that you get cleared to work as soon as possible. Here in the states, I suppose that we are fortunate that we don't have that type of regulation.

You mentioned about my discussion of recovery, and I have to say, I learned a lot from the posts that followed that discussion. Recovery is a very personal thing where meds can be useful.

I think it is important to know that the road is long, but that you will get moving agian, and that will be fun. It is only a matter of time.

Hang in there.

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