It makes sense to avoid most people

I all ready had a bunch of useless meetings this week that stressed me out so I was ready for the week to be over. As I was coming back from lunch on Thursday I was stopped by the building security officer and another person who works there. They asked me how to view the building's security cameras. I'm very cautious about anyone viewing them; I've learned that it is usually to spy on another co-worker or other such nonsense. Well it turns out (I will try to make this short) that this idiot went out to smoke, put her cigarette case on a trashcan and forgot it. By the time she went back outside it was missing. And she had almost $400 in the case. Later the empty case was found thrown in the bushes.

Where the trashcan/smoking area is located, there are no cameras. It is too far from the door and the cameras are meant to record theft and such inside the building. And I told her that. She got really really rude and started talking about getting a court order so that she could view the footage (that is against policy, only the security officer or a manager can view them) and said that she wanted to question anyone who could be seen entering or exiting the building. We have 6 entrances and 7 exits from the building, so there was no guarantee that the person who took the money was anyone coming or going on the footage.

She also wanted another tenant in our building to view the tapes and give us the names of any of his clients on the tape. Because of the type of business that he has that would be a violation of federal law. Anyway she got very nasty with me. She is to put it mildly ‘rough around the edges.’ And so I was pretty curt/cold back. I finally told her that although I was sorry that this happened to her, that she really should have been more careful with $400, to which she replied that she didn’t need a lecture or like my tone. I told her that since this was a personal matter and not a business matter, that I was happy to not talk to her any further. I did tell the security officer that he could view the tape, but that he would not be able to identify the person who took her money and that unless someone was captured on camera taking the money that no one would be harassed.

I decided to tell my boss what happened, and I was none too pleased about since I try to avoid talking to my boss who I think has BPD and I just cannot deal with her.
I was going to call the rude employees supervisor, but I decided not to. I figured I’d just let it drop.

Well Friday I find out from my boss that this ridiculous woman has filed an official grievance against me. Said that she has never been talked to so rudely in her life (I doubt that) and just went on and on. I was of course furious. Told my side, since I had a witness that helped. And of course what is really funny is that the woman used the wrong form, because she and I actually work for different organizations, that fall under the same ‘umbrella organization’ (odd I know) she doesn’t even have the right to file this kind of grievance against me and even if she did, being rude does not qualify for this kind of grievance. It is more like if she worked for me and I gave her a bad evaluation or wrote her up kind of thing.

And probably the most infuriating thing of all is that someone who is always claiming to be my friend, even though they have thrown me under the bus before is the person who gave her the information on how to file this grievance against me. Of course she is also an idiot since it was the improper form etc. She will probably shat herself if she finds out that the rude employee put in her grievance where she got the instructions on how to file this grievance.

Now…this rude employee will be reprimanded for being rude to me, since I was clever enough to not lose my temper and could prove to my boss how I tried to make the situation more calm or whatever and because of what this rude employee does for a living she should be aware of federal privacy laws that protect some of the information that she was demanding…and so therefore I pointed out to my boss that since she clearly does not, that she is a liability for our company and perhaps it needs to be discussed with her supervisor whether or not she is capable of performing her job.

And as for my ‘friend’…well she recently just went through some ‘leadership training’ yet clearly did not demonstrate leadership by for 1 not understanding company policy and for 2 not trying to handle the situation in a way that did not involve a formal grievance for something so petty. So I have now requested that my boss also counsel/reprimand her. I think things like leadership training are a crock of you know what. But since they are all espousing this nonsense, than I have no problem pointing these things out to them.

My boss was in one of her ‘upswing’ I really like you and these other people are idiot moods, so took tons of notes about all of this and since she is not a stupid person…totally understood my logic and my request that they all be ‘punished’ for their poor behavior.
But I’m still really really mad. I don’t think these things should be allowed. I heard that after speaking with me, the rude woman went up to her work area and burst in to tears. WTF? She is ranting and raving at me, sneers at me “I’m sorry I even talked to you!!!” to which I replied “I am sorry that you talked to me to.” And walked away.

No wonder people want to avoid others. It is a lot of bother and nonsense.

Sorry this is a long rant!

Lol! What a rant!
I think users are still reading your post.
Only to tell you that I'm here.
I was surprised noone still replied.

Feel free to rant. I also do it from time to time.

Thank you. Sorry about the length. I probably should have just put it in my journal

That's a crazy place where you work, Priscilla... I'd try and look for another place if it was me.. I know that's not easy, but I've worked at crazy places too where people are all at each other's throats and the boss is nuts etc. and it's very stressful Not every place is like that. You should be able to work at a place that is a bit calmer.

Priscila, I was kidding!
Writing here is better than write in a journal. I do it all the time and I like to have other users oppinions.
Job stuff is often stressing, isn't it? Have you got any opportunity to change your work place?
If not, I'll tell you what I do in case it could help you: I do my job as well as possible. I go away from rumors and gopssy, that's why people always tell me that I'm in another planet.
Be cautious and as assertive as possible. Avoid as much as possible tóxic people.
There is always a tóxic person in each work.
Good like and remember rant as much as you feel like.


I love you Dwight!

Thank you so much skyflyz and twistermind for taking the time to respond to me. I think mostly I was so shocked. I have 6 years to go before I will hit my 20 years and be eligible for a full pension, I started working there when I was 26. But I really may need to look into other options. There are other places that I could go where my years of service will transfer.

Of all things...my work stresses me the most. Maybe because it is really not something that we have very much control over.

I always get told that I am 'unique.' But in that kind of "Ummm you are really unique" way But I also think that is because I don't want to participate in the gossip and drama.

twistermind- Is that your dog? That is such an adorable dog! And often much more fun to be around than people!

Thank you both again! It helped to read your responses!

Hi Priscilla,

Right now I literally can't read through long posts.. so I had to skim yours and get the gist, because I didn't want you to feel like nobody bothered to answer it.

I left a good high paying job because it was driving me nuts. I really think you should look into options where you can transfer your time. It sounds like you have the type of job I did, except I was in such bad shape mentally I had no choice but to leave. I left a lot of money on the table, retirement money, etc. But sometimes you have to do the hard thing. When I started my job I had rotating assignments, and the people were different in all of them. Some were awful, and in some I really got along well with the people.

Life is too short to spend so much of it with toxic people... think about how many hours you have to spend with the crazy boss and this other nutso person. Schedule a time to sit down and draft a resume or whatever you have to do to get started looking for a new place to work. Use some people at work as your references.

I had to leave my job entirely, take time out and never go back to what I used to do. And you know what, I never regret it for one minute, despite the times of economic hardship.

New places are scary.. and the next one might be bad too.. but you'll never know if you don't try. Good luck in whatever you do, and remember that your mental serenity should take precedence over everything else, even your pension.

I had to deal with major butt-heads at my last job. My boss actually GAVE me her lazy incompetent cronies to supervise. I managed to deal with one part time guy, but when she gave me the full time one there was no way I could deal. I finally got in trouble for threatening her with a bowl of pasta. Reeally - that's the charge they brought me up on. And they had a guy who witnessed it too. you just have to document document document and then doculemt document document some more. But someone else who knows the system will make false documents. So my bosses liked the incompetent cronies better than me. I got 6 mohths paid admin leave. Then I got laid off - but EVERYONE got laid off including the incompetent cronies. But NOT the corrupt incompetent bosses. They did get theirs a few years later. And I got a new job.

If $400 was taken couldn't the idiot have getten the police involved?

Good that you made changes in your life that make you happy skyflyz! I hope you like your new place of employment!

Parador-I read the posts that you write about your job and often think...yep we have some similar things in common! I also work for a government organization. Yes the idiot could have gotten the police involved and in some ways that would have been funny to hear what they told her. I have a feeling it would be something like...you left $400 on top of a trashcan?! Maybe then she could tell the police that she didn't like their tone