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by Shb9902 » Sat Mar 23, 2013 4:17 am
I am a 45 year old mom of two...my dad is 68 and his doctor has diagnosed him with Aspergers. Wow this explains a lot, but in all my research online I have yet to come across any information on how I can help him. Our relationship is not what either of us wishes it was. I love him and hope to understand more about why he acts the way he does (and always has) and help him have some more normal and rewarding relationships with people who care about him. Help.
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by TDT » Sun Mar 24, 2013 7:24 pm
I'm not sure how much we can be of help. Your father is 68 and was just recently diagnosed. That means, for 68 years he has had a history, and a set-in personality already set up. I'm not saying it's impossible to help make your relationship better, but I am thinking it has less to do with Aspergers and more to do with your history with him.
Maybe it's best to start with a few questions. How is your relationship now? What is the relationship you want? What is the relationship he wants?
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by jinci » Sun Mar 24, 2013 9:40 pm
I am in the same boat as you and I am looking for resources or forums on the internet. My 58 year old mom was diagnosed just after xmas. The diagnosis explains SO MUCH about her behavior it is shocking and a great relief at the same time. I have a horrible relationship with my mom since adolescence, I just never understood her or what she did or why she did it. Now that there is an explanation, I feel like I can at least try to be a better daughter, more understanding of her and maybe build some kind of a relationship. The therapist said she is too old to change so all the work has to be on my end about how I act and react with her. My father left when I was young and I don't know him anymore so I would try anything to have a relationship with at least 1 parent.
Are there any good resources you could recommend either on the internet or books or anything? I want to learn as much as I can and I would like to talk to people who have similar experiences (but I don't know anyone else who has a parent with a/s).
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