Does my aspie crush think I'm too old for him?

I recently learned that a guy from work who I really, really like has Aspergers. I never would have guessed, and he told me that not many people do until he tells them he has it-which is when they start seeing it here and there. I'd heard of it before, from a former contestant on America's Next Top Model who said she wanted to be a role model for girls with Aspergers as she herself had it, and a character on Glee who has "self-diagnosed Aspergers". After discovering he has it, I've been trying to learn as much as I can on the topic (and am starting to wondering if my "Borderline Personality Disorder" was a misdiagnosis as I fit much of the Aspie criteria myself.) I figured perhaps joining an AS forum would help me learn more and gain a better understanding. (I've also been reading other information online and watching videos on YouTube. I'd really like to get a copy of that book "22 Things A Woman Must Know if She Loves a Man with Aspergers")

Anyways, there appears to be a mutual attraction between us and I wanted to get to know him better outside of work, so this morning we went for coffee (we're on the night shift). Things were going well, although we were only out for maybe an hour together. While he politely waited with me for my cab (I told him he didn't have to. He said it was polite. I agreed but acknowledged that he was tired and I wouldn't think he was rude if he didn't wait with me. He chose to continue to wait with me.) I blurted "Would it be too forward if I asked to give you a kiss on the cheek?"
He seemed surprised. "That was a random question." he replied.
"Yeah, I guess it kinda was."
"Let me ask YOU a question," he said "How old ARE you?"
A question I dislike, as many people mistake me for being much younger than I actually am-and I'm quite happy to let them think that. I debated on lying, then figured that would only create problems down the road if things did get serious. I cringed "30. I'm old."
"...I'm like, seven years younger than you." he said "I'm 23."
"My last boyfriend was 23." I told him, trying to let him know that his age didn't bother me if mine didn't bother him. Although I got the impression that it did bother him. I wasn't sure what to say. I really like him and was cursing the year I was born. Why couldn't I have been born later in the '80s? "I have a tendency to go for younger guys. I guess maybe 'cause I only feel 25." None of what I said was a lie.
He then said he feels older for his age, as he's gone through a lot of poop (using the family-friendly version of his word-choice) in his life "More than most people my age." he added.
"I hear ya, I spent most of my teen years being homeless." I revealed.
We were quiet for a brief moment until he said "I think that's your cab."
"Where? I don't see it."
"Right there," he pointed and I saw it turn the corner.
My cab pulled up. I was still embarrassed, wondering if I was shot down on account of my age. As I walked toward my ride, I asked if he was sure he didn't want a ride home (I'd asked him before the kiss comment if he wanted a ride, and he said he preferred to walk.) He still wanted to walk, so I said "Okay. Thanks for coming out for coffee with me. Sorry once again that I'm old."
"I'll see you at work Wednesday." he said.
And that was it.

Sorry for the long post. I appreciate anybody who's made it this far, and would appreciate even more if anybody could give me some kind of feedback. I feel like a high-school girl obsessing over this fascinating, captivating guy trying to analyse him. Maybe he was just caught off-guard by my forward question and how much older than him I actually am? Maybe he really does think I'm too old for him? Maybe it was a combination of the AS and his ADHD plus him having worked a 12 hour shift on 3 hours sleep? He never said no, but he never said yes. He never answered the question at all. Maybe the no was implied by him stating he's 7 years younger than me? I'm so confused.

I honestly think you may have rushed it a little too fast.

I don't know how long you've known him, but an hour coffee and standing outside with him doesn't necessarily mean that he's wanting a kiss...or is even interested in a relationship.

I think it's not a bad idea asking the person about physical contact and being more forward about it. In fact, I really wish more people did that because I really commonly miss on cues until I talk with friends about what happened and hear "oh, yeah she was expecting X". For example...I went on a date with someone from class, the date lasted 3 hours..we just sat and talked to each other. When I was about leaving, she was walking with me to the door. I was very happy, but I didn't pick up on the social cues that she was wanting a kiss. I went to a friend of mine and explained the night, and he told me what she was expecting. Personally, I think you asking is really great, from an aspie point of view.

I think your best bet, for now, is to slow down a bit. Give it a week or so while talking with him, and then maybe go out for coffee again. He may not be interested, he may be interested, he may not be sure yet if he's interested...and I don't know what he's thinking.

He probably could have said what he said a little nicer..but maybe that was due to the sleep issues, or who knows.

Thank you very much for your reply, TDT! and also thank you for thinking my blunt behaviour is good from an aspie view. I'm "bad" for being quite clear on what I want from a guy (sometimes it scares most guys or leaves them thinking I'm easy), maybe this makes me ideal for aspies lol

Perhaps it was a bit rushed on my part. I am very bad at knowing how to "take things slow" and have been working to improve it. Clearly I still need to work on it.

We've known each-other a few weeks, and have a tendency (perhaps purely coincidental) of "following" the other around when not at our work stations (ex: going to/from the lunch room, going to/from break) and at staff meetings, at break and before/after work of standing near each-other, though usually standing close beside each-other. I've also noticed that I seem to be a topic of conversation among him and some of the other guys (ex: I come walking around the corner, and hear them saying "There she is!" happily but also in a way that denotes they'd just been wondering my whereabouts.) He also seems to choose me as the person he opens up to about personal things (nothing overly personal, but personal nonetheless. From details of his past to the print on his boxers-right down to showing me a sneak peek of said boxers.) Oh, and when a girl commented that she thinks I look like the singer Bif Naked, he seemed to solely concentrate on the idea of me...naked, given his Homer Simpson-esque behaviour (think Homer craving beer, or donuts, with the head tilted back and making weird noises while drooling and saying "mmm beeeeer". Minus the line of drool and insert "Mmm....naaaaked..." in place of "beer")

You are right though. He does seem to be one where I should move slow. I don't want to scare him off. Perhaps he's the one who will (inadvertently) teach me this lesson I need to learn.

He opened up that much in a few weeks of knowing you? Hmm...

I've known people for years that I don't open up that much to. Kinda surprised he would open up that quick...many I know with AS don't really do it quite that fast.

I don't know how slow he wants to take it, if at all *shrug*

So far pretty much everything about this guy is surprising

many AS men go for older women. it provides them with emotional stability. but i do agree that you need to let this relationship develop at it's own pace rather than forcing the pace. people with AS (men and women) are notorious for panicing and running for the hills.

Thanks for the heads up, Shock I will definitely slow my roll-the last thing I want is to send him running to the hills.