Supportive partners

Sorry if I write sometihng wrong, English isn't my first language!...

But I've read much about those with AS who's partner doesn't understand them or their neuro-typical partner can't understand the behaviour of their partner with AS.

So I thought about this refreshing topic about understanding partners

I have a girlfriend and we have been togheter for 3½ years now, we are really supportive of eachother, I am the one with AS, she might not understand it all but she doesn't question it, if I tell her that I don't feel well and have to go aside for a while she comes with me and we just cuddle up and rest for a while she have really helped me be able to stand crowded places longer and longer and my anxiety is almost all gone! I am trying to be there for her as much as I can and she have called me her soulmate <3

Zinalu wrote:Sorry if I write sometihng wrong, English isn't my first language!...

But I've read much about those with AS who's partner doesn't understand them or their neuro-typical partner can't understand the behaviour of their partner with AS.

So I thought about this refreshing topic about understanding partners

I have a girlfriend and we have been togheter for 3½ years now, we are really supportive of eachother, I am the one with AS, she might not understand it all but she doesn't question it, if I tell her that I don't feel well and have to go aside for a while she comes with me and we just cuddle up and rest for a while she have really helped me be able to stand crowded places longer and longer and my anxiety is almost all gone! I am trying to be there for her as much as I can and she have called me her soulmate <3

That's great zinalu, I'm glad someone else has found that too. My husband is the same way, he may not always really "understand" how I am, but he knows where it comes from and he's very supportive. Also, for some reason when I'm with him I'm not nearly so shy! Like your girlfriend, he makes me feel much more comfortable when we're with other people. I really depend on him though in those situations, and I don't like to go to large gatherings without him.

i don't want to de-rail this thread but i think if you read what you've written here carefully you might realise that you come across as 'a bit of a soft touch'. i'm not sure how universal that expression is but it's what most readily springs to my mind. so, within the context of your 'AS and being mean' thread, i'd like to point out that there are people that will pick up on that 'softness' and exploit it to gratify themselves. sometimes, it's better to put on a bit of a front and not wear your heart on your sleeve. make what you like of this but i think you may well be attracting the behaviour you mentioned. and i'm not justifying it but if you know this happens you can possibly do something to avoid it.

That's nice to have a partner that's like that. I, unfortunately, haven't really found anyone (partner wise), that can help me quite like that. I do have some friends, and those people do help me in situations where I'd otherwise have problems alone. So...I think having some kinda support structure, be that friends or relationships, is kinda important. I'm glad you found something that works for you, though.

shock_the_monkey wrote:i don't want to de-rail this thread but i think if you read what you've written here carefully you might realise that you come across as 'a bit of a soft touch'. i'm not sure how universal that expression is but it's what most readily springs to my mind. so, within the context of your 'AS and being mean' thread, i'd like to point out that there are people that will pick up on that 'softness' and exploit it to gratify themselves. sometimes, it's better to put on a bit of a front and not wear your heart on your sleeve. make what you like of this but i think you may well be attracting the behaviour you mentioned. and i'm not justifying it but if you know this happens you can possibly do something to avoid it.

Well I mostly ment that they allow themselves to behave like that, I know I'm soft and easy to make fun of etc, but people should really know better with or without AS