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I Don't Know What To Do

Postby GivingIn8989 » Fri Oct 19, 2012 9:21 pm

I'm a heroin addict and I don't want to use anymore but it's hard to quit. My boyfriend was a really funny and nice person before all this but the past year he's been addicted with me and it's gotten worse.
He's always telling me I'm lying and that I'm stupid.. if there's money it's his, drugs his, cigarettes are his I just share.
Recently I've been doing escorting and it's been humiliating and when I don't come home with as much money as he expects he gets mad and flips out. He makes me feel inferior.
I feel like I've changed him and he says I owe him and I kind of feel that I do. I don't want to be here but have no where to go...
Needed to vent.. thanks.
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Re: I Don't Know What To Do

Postby WiseMonkey » Fri Oct 19, 2012 11:01 pm

You owe him nothing. He is abusive and I am sorry that you are currently unable to leave him. Please, explore your options about renting a place and living on your own. Find some support groups in your area and consider seeing a therapist who can help you get emotionally stronger. You don't see a solution right now, but you can find it if you look for it.

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Re: I Don't Know What To Do

Postby Ada » Sat Oct 20, 2012 3:02 pm

I agree with WM, you don't owe him anything. It's his choice as to how to behave and treat you and I'm sorry he's choosing to treat you badly. If your boyfriend doesn't want to change his lifestyle, and get away from drugs and being crap to you, then you won't be able to make him. But being around him will make it so much harder for you to quit.

Are there any refuges / clinics / support services in your area to help with getting away from him and away from heroin? Any non-using friends who might let you stay with them for a while to get things sorted out? It might be that seeing you getting your act together and moving on will be the kick in the pants he needs to change, quit drugs and start treating you with respect again. Or it might be that you do need to take separate paths now. You need to look after yourself first.
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