I have had enough

Oh dear god, where do I start? I am a 27 year old female. I have dealt with emotional abuse from my twin sister all my life. At the beginning I was always the quiet one. She was the popular one. She had friends, I didn't need any. I was never jealous, I have never imposed on her and her friends. We spent the most miserable 12 years together in school. Don't get me wrong, I had friends, but she never missed the opportunity to tell me how boring they were and how I should ditch them. Thank god I never listened. She was and still is prone to tantrums. She is insanely jealous, she lost a boyfriend for that. On several occasions she made a scene when I said hello to him. He had his own issues but I think he would've made a great friend, but she wouldn't allow him to have friends. We started attending universities. Different ones, but we still lived at home with parents. Together. She would make friends, bad ones, who would eventually leave. But I think, now looking back she desrved it. She dropped out, changed her major to mine. Luckily I was a few years ahead so she couldn't hurt my academic life. But she dropped out of that too. Tantrums continued. She would make a scene whenever she would see her ex-boyfriend. Since she lost all her friends she started hanging out with me and mine. Yesterday I didn't feel like going out. My friends went out without me but didn't call her. She got mad. She is always feeling sorry for herself. I have given her a job. My friends hang out with her because I make them, so she wouldn't feel alone but she always says: I am alone, those are your friends and they hate me. She may or may not have a personality disorder or a bipolar but I don't care. She has her claws in me and won't let go. She is trying desperately to make me feel guilty for having a life that is not hers. Why do people do that? Why does she do that? All I want is my life back, something that is just mine, not hers. I want to stop being afraid she would make a scene when we're out or when we get home. I just want her out of my life. I know what I want but I can't have that right now. No money. No job. I am stuck. I want her to die. There.

Welcome to the forums Never Ever

As you didn't post this in the vent forums (found in the members corner) where it is rude to reply to a vent, I'm going to assume you want a reply. ........ Hope I am not wrong.

I can't help wondering if your sister has Narcissistic (there is a forum for this type of person) type of character ...... which you can't cure, so please don't try !

I am curious why are you living at home at 27 ? What are you studying ? And how long have you got to go ?

It seems your friends, yesterday, have expressed their desire not to have your sister company when they went out without (contacting ) her. Be careful if you force them, too often,to have your sisters company they may go out without you too!

Alas it seems you can not have your own life back you'll have to stop giving your sister such open access to your lifestyle........ or in other words until you move out and can close the door, literally, on your sister.

Now how can we, fellow members help ?

You just did I guess I did just need to vent, but I had no idea where to put this. I live at home at 27 because I don't live in the US. I live in a country where jobs are scarce and when you do get one, the pay is never enough so you either get married and get a loan for an apartment or you stay with your parents. It is not something most people want to do, but there you have it. I think I am justtired of tip toeing around people like that, and when it's someone you live with it's all the time. I start and end the sentences with WE instead of ME and I'm sick of it is all. I am not sure about personality disorders, some people struggle with them every day but there is no cure. I am not sure those kinds of people even deserve help since they often refuse and make other people's lives hell. She is not the only person like that I had to deal with but that's another story altogether. Thanks for replying, means a lot