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pfa against husband

Postby chrism67 » Fri Feb 17, 2012 3:26 am

I currently have a pfa against my husband and we have had no contact since sept. When he chose to live in his truck and do drugs. He left me with four kids. We are considered seperated. But im starting to look into getting a divorce. Where do i even start. It seems very overwhelming.
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Re: pfa against husband

Postby Greatexpectations » Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:02 am

I had to deal with divorce on my own, not helped by having social phobia and lack of confidence.
I had to pluck up the courage to go and see a solicitor that was hard. Felt quite proud of myself after managing that.
I don't know where you live as rules about these things can be different.
My friend got a divorce over the internet, didn't cost much. You could look a that option first if you haven't got much money.
If you put 'How To Get a divorce' into google you should get a good idea about how to start the process where ever you live.
I'm sorry you are in this sad situation, four kids too, Phew, that's hard work very stressful.
I don't know where you live, if you where in the UK I'd say go to the citizens advice bureau (C.A.B) who give free advice and support and Gingerbread' an org that supports single parents. Look for similar orgs where you are, these people have been through similar situations.
As your husband is living in a truck doing drugs a divorce will be a good idea, has he always been difficult?
Its hard being brave when it all feels 'a bit too much' to deal with, but the kids need you and love you. I know how scary all this is, I have 4 kids too and my 'husband' was hopeless.
Hang on in there YOU CAN DO THIS.
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Re: pfa against husband

Postby masquerade » Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:20 am

It may also help you at some stage to talk things through with a therapist. It sounds as if you're overwhelmed by a lot of different emotions, and that you may be feeling somewhat uncertain and challenged by all the changes that lie ahead of you. This is a major life incident for you, and it's hardly surprising that you feel this way. You may not decide to have therapy at this stage if you have a lot going on, but when the dust has settled, therapy can help you to make sense of all the emotions and feelings that overwhelm you. It may also help to enlist the support of people, and see if there are any support groups for people in similar situations to yourself.

For now, it would possibly be a good idea to break down the challenges that you face into smaller manageable stages, tackling one issue at a time. You need to be kind to yourself, making sure that you look after your physical and emotional health. I wish you well, and I'm sure you'll find inner resources of strength you never knew you had. Also, if you keep posting here, you may find support from the people on the board.
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