Helping someone understand your abuse....

Hi Everyone

About a year ago I was in an abusive relationship. It ended and I stayed single for over 6 months out of fear of being in another abusive relationship.

Recently I met a guy online and we've started to get fairly serious. I had explained to him early on that the relationship prior to him had been abusive and now as we're growing closer he's started asking if there's anything he can do to help me overcome the abuse. I explained that I wasn't sure there really was much he could actually do for me, but part of me understands that it's hard to feel so powerless to help some one you care about.

I want to know if there are any resources I can direct him to to help him understand better what's going on in my mind or that might be able to suggest ways he can help me while I'm going through the healing process. I honestly don't want him to be hurt and upset while I'm trying to help myself. There's got to be books or something to help a person who is in a relationship with some one who was abused.

Thanks


Sheryl

Books can be informative, but YOUR voice, your experience and you learning to express how you feel is the best way for him to learn what your needs are. Books are all cases In general and not specific to your experience or needs.
If you would like a tool that could help him see how dangerous your situation was, I suppose you could take the test on the link I will provide. It will assess the probability of your life having been in danger.
https://www.mosaicmethod.com/
The test is free and confidential.
You have a good heart. I hope that in time you can let go of your painful past and move on to better things for yourself,
With Care,
One