PLease Help

I will sum this up quick but really am desperate for help so please anyone who can help me I would really appreciate it! My ex-fiance became abusive to me when I became pregnant last year with our son. He gave me a ring and then would take it away and go back and forth between wanting to get married and not until 7 months later when he got angry and drunk and grabbed my throat, so the engagement was off because he was arrested and had a restraining order placed on him. A month later he did the whole begging and pleading to have me back..I told him I needed time to think about this..then out of the blue one day he suddenly didn't want me back anymore and pretty much dissapeared for a month of 2...inbetween seeing the baby when he was born and then flipping out on me at the hospital which again resulted in another restraining order. Then he suddenly decided again to start telling me how he was so in love with me...he wants to make it work...being extra attentive and sweet to me...I told him I didn't think that it could work because too much damage was done...but I was willing to be "Friends" for the baby so we could get along for his upbringing. He continued to persue the issue of us getting back together. Then again...out of the blue...he dissapears...currenly I need to make arrangements for something in terms of the baby that I need his assistance with and he's playing the silent treatment game and won't answer my call/text. It's almost like he is using the baby now to be abusive to me. He acted like he wanted to be this huge part of the babies life while he wanted to get back with me but now that he knows I don't it's like his interest in the baby is gone. I don't care if I never see him again, I am fully financially capable of caring for my son and what worries me is the effect he will have on my son if he continues to use him as a way to hurt me. Or am I viewing this wrong? I try not to let him upset me with his games but it's so hard not to. Can anyone give me advice on this? Thanks

Hi. The best advice I can give you is to take the test in the link below. More than worrying about your son, I think you need to worry about your safety. I would let him go as much as possible If I were in your position. He is in no way a proper influence for you baby-your right. But given his violent history, keep in mind that scenarios like yours tend to escalate so proceed cautiously.
This test also offers further support and advice.
https://www.mosaicmethod.com/
Best wishes,
With Hope,
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