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Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby CSIlover » Tue Jun 22, 2010 8:30 am

Ok, well, I'm really frustrated. One of my friends told me that he wants to help me with my emotions. That's ridiculous. (Just so you know, I'm not really his friend anymore and it was relayed through another one of my friends).

We talked for awhile until she wanted to tell me what happened between that ex-friend of mine (because I called it a first hand account of hell, I guess?). I got really sad (I actually starting crying and playing the song Hurt by Johnny Cash). She thought they were "opinions". I was verbally abused! I did not want to talk about it! I had to say bye because I didn't want to her to say any more crap like that! (She thought it was abuse because I'm making myself feel bad). She does not understand Aspeger's!

Abuse is not an opinion.

Oh yeah, that "ex"-friend (and his friends too!) wants me to get help. Excuse me?! I do not want HELP! I just want someone that will LOVE me, comfort me, etc.


If I can remember, here's some of the things my ex-friend has said:

"How many times have you used the word f*** in your research paper?"

"If you could have either, which would you choose: your birds or your car?"

"You'll become worst enemies with your dad."

"Let's commit suicide together."

He even made a joke about murdering my birds.

He told me why I couldn't sleep at night: he thought I was with my car all night and that my parents missed me.

He thought I was constantly driving 24/7.

He thought my car would break down at my college and that I'd yell: "F#$%&@&% piece of s$&*!!!!!!!!!!!"

My bird Shadow DIED and all he did was COMPLAIN.

He made fun of my home state, Oklahoma (verbatim):

"Oh yeah; I'm not going to call you Car Lover any more. I know you only drive out of necessity, and it's not your fault you live in Car Land (a.k.a. Oklahoma)."

"Over here, I don't need a car. In fact, I couldn't have one, because there's nowhere for students to park their cars! It's great :D. Over there, however, you're all so in love with driving that you've made it so that you basically HAVE to do it to get everywhere. I bet you don't even walk to the toilet when you need to relieve yourself. You probably driver there instead."

"It's completely retarded, Michelle, and you know it. Why are you planet-killing death boxes so precious to you Yanks?"

"*is shocked that Oklahoma's state seal doesn't have a car on [it?]*"

He even thought that a GOOSE'S HONKING WAS A CAR HONKING!!!!!

"I wouldn't be so unsettling with the thought of you controlling a car... if you knew how to control yourself but, since you got it when you could NOT control yourself, you'll always be Car Lover to me."

"I forgot. You don't like people, you prefer birds and cars... can't forget them!"

He's called me an it.

"Oh, yeah. Who are you sleeping with these days? Are you still with that driving instructor that got you pregnant? j/k." (NOT FUNNY)

"How are your birds? Do they drive little cars yet?"

"When you were one, and you sat in the corner on your own daycare, you probably looked out of the window at cars, wishing to drive them."

"I can just imagine what it's like at home. You're sitting at the dinner table with your family; you pick up the plate up and start holding it like a steering wheel (spilling all of your dinner). If you've descended into that...
"I guess it's the same at college. You take the clock off the wall when you're in class and you "drive" with it in front of the whole class. You just can't help it... because your instinct in life is to drive."

"I can imagine you making a pizza. Then, when it's finished, you realise 'OMG! THIS IS ROUND!' and then you 'drive' with it and it falls to the floor and as for the box it came in you do the same thing. 'I'm driving an Austin Allegro!!!! VROOOOOOOM!!!!"

"So, what do you want to do when you've finished at college? Not a fireman, I hope... you'll just wrap the hose into a circle and 'drive' with it. Or maybe not actually, you'll just drive the fire engine! But, all these 'driving' jokes aside, I guess you'd want a career that involves lots and lots of driving? Although, you could just do that whenever you want."

"*looks at boobs* HEY, THESE ARE ROUND :D ! *'drives with them'* OW!!! THAT HURT D:."

These four definitely hurt badly:

"You're also so fragile and so paranoid that you take offence to things that aren't intended to be offensive. I recommend getting psychological help."

"You're right...only you can change your personality. However, people can help you to do this."

"I have plenty of friends who think you need psychological help."

"Michelle, when we discussed this on MSN, you just signed off when you realised that I had a valid reason to dislike you. Weak. Coward."

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He thought I wanted to be a doctor just so I could DRIVE.

He posted this yesterday:

Wow. Just wow.

I said, "I'll only read/review them if you're nice to me, though." A couple of days later, I caught you saying nasty things about me behind my back.

There's no chance of me reading them now.



Such a hypocrite. He's never nice to me. I can't believe this idiot was my friend.



Sorry if some these aren't verbal abuse. I was just showing what an IDIOT he is.

-I have no way of contacting his parents
-He never LISTENS to me
-He doesn't understand me
-He doesn't know the true me
-He's a hypocrite as you can see above (apparently he's against racism)
-He never comforts me
-He just picks out faults
-Even his friends are rude to me
-He treats me like a piece of S***.
-When his friends abused me, he thought I deserved it
-He is obsessed with driving
-He is jealous of my driving
-I know that jealousy is a sign of immaturity and insecurity
-He got all worked up just because some people in Tulsa died in car wrecks
-He thought my ultimate death was going to be a car crash
-He thought that's all I wanted to do
-I've lost my ability to trust
-He can't control his emotions and goes in these wild bouts of anger (he gets angry easily)
-Another one of his friends that's really nice to me says that I'm better at controlling my emotions
-He got angry just because I didn't understand a review that he posted... here it is:

There's one thing about this that I don't get. They have to be careful not to step on butterflies for fear of changing history...but they're allowed to save someone's life? That changes history massively, to the extent that half the things in the story up to now wouldn't have happened! It's all a massive time paradox, and for that reason, I'd suggest avoiding time travel in the future.


There was a whole episode of Family Guy where Stewie, Brian and Mort go back in time and nothing changed when they went back into the future!

Stewie: All right, Brian, we'll go. But don't touch anything while we're there. Even stepping on a mosquito can cause a chain reaction that drastically alters the present.

Brian: Really?

Stewie: Nah. You can do whatever you want.


-All talks about is boring BS that I don't understand
-He's given me lectures about BS that I don't understand
-He doesn't understand how easily hurt I get
-He is suicidal:

"I'll mention you in my suicide note."

-He JUMPS to conclusions
-I've had to lie so he wouldn't figure that I went to my car to get something



-He used to be kind and loving
-He used to treat me like a human
-I used to wait for him to come online
-He used to not be so boring (he'd actually talk about stuff I loved!)
-He used to review all the time
-He used to comfort me
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby Chucky » Wed Jun 23, 2010 9:27 pm

CSIlover , look at what that monster of a person has done to you - he has turned you into someone with a lot of angry inside. Why give him that? You can take the upper hand here by putting up a brick wall in his face, mentally-speaking. All you must do is eradicate him from your life. He must surely assume right now that he has you under his control - He dictates the conversations; and he controls your mood - and he's getting away with it. You don't need this.

What i propose is that you delete all contact information you have for him. Let him stay in his murly world, while you take your own world forward and away from him. If you can do that, you will have proven that you are the better person, and the more mature one too.

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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby CSIlover » Thu Jun 24, 2010 2:39 am

Chucky wrote:CSIlover , look at what that monster of a person has done to you - he has turned you into someone with a lot of angry inside. Why give him that? You can take the upper hand here by putting up a brick wall in his face, mentally-speaking. All you must do is eradicate him from your life. He must surely assume right now that he has you under his control - He dictates the conversations; and he controls your mood - and he's getting away with it. You don't need this.

What i propose is that you delete all contact information you have for him. Let him stay in his murly world, while you take your own world forward and away from him. If you can do that, you will have proven that you are the better person, and the more mature one too.

Kevin


Don't worry, I've done that! I wish I could contact his parents to show what a monster he is! I hate him. I hope he treats his other friends this way and they become enemies. I'd laugh. He's the one that needs help, not me.


P.S. I don't have very many friends.
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby Chucky » Thu Jun 24, 2010 8:42 pm

CSIlover wrote:
P.S. I don't have very many friends.

Is that an excuse for not getting rid of him? I'd argue that by getting rid of him, you'd be more receptive to meting other people, and would eventually make many more friends.
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby CSIlover » Thu Jun 24, 2010 9:54 pm

Chucky wrote:
CSIlover wrote:
P.S. I don't have very many friends.

Is that an excuse for not getting rid of him? I'd argue that by getting rid of him, you'd be more receptive to meting other people, and would eventually make many more friends.


No, it's not. I was just saying I don't have many friends and that he was one of my few best friends I had until he became an asshole.


He was the best friend I could ever have! His mind is just ###$ up.



*cough* Sorry about the French.
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby Chucky » Thu Jun 24, 2010 11:03 pm

Whether or not it is his mind that his ###$ up, the fact of the matter/issue is that he is causing you much troubkle and would be better off out of your life right now. Who knows - maybe years down the line you will be great friends again, but the time is not right now. I believe it shows a great person if you can be happy while alone and having few friends (if any at all). If you get through such a lonely period and come out content or happy, then you will have shown you are independent and wise. You might just be entering such a period now.

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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby CSIlover » Fri Jun 25, 2010 3:49 am

Chucky wrote:Whether or not it is his mind that his ###$ up, the fact of the matter/issue is that he is causing you much troubkle and would be better off out of your life right now. Who knows - maybe years down the line you will be great friends again, but the time is not right now. I believe it shows a great person if you can be happy while alone and having few friends (if any at all). If you get through such a lonely period and come out content or happy, then you will have shown you are independent and wise. You might just be entering such a period now.

Good luck and take care,
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Yeah, I was thinking the same thing.
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby The sad kitty » Mon Jul 19, 2010 7:43 pm

I feel you pain, CSIlover I really do. Let me tell you a little bit about my sad, sad story. It wasn't too long ago when I joined a forum and there was this girl, she started off to be really nice but that soon changed when I started to talk about things that didn't interest her! She would say all manner of hateful and hurtful things to me, things like "STFU I @!#$ing hate you! Talk about something I like!" or "FML I hate my life! Its all your fault I hate you!" and "You an @$$hole! I hate you I hope you burn in hell! FML!" :cry: very, very hurtful things. One time I asked her how her day was, and she replyed saying "FML I HATE YOU HOW DARE YOU ASK ME HOW MY DAY WAS! I !@#$ING HATE YOU!" Yes she was very mean. I still cry sometimes when I think about it. :cry:
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Re: Dunno if this is verbal abuse or not... but I'm a victim

Postby CSIlover » Sat Sep 11, 2010 8:12 pm

The sad kitty wrote:I feel you pain, CSIlover I really do. Let me tell you a little bit about my sad, sad story. It wasn't too long ago when I joined a forum and there was this girl, she started off to be really nice but that soon changed when I started to talk about things that didn't interest her! She would say all manner of hateful and hurtful things to me, things like "STFU I @!#$ing hate you! Talk about something I like!" or "FML I hate my life! Its all your fault I hate you!" and "You an @$$hole! I hate you I hope you burn in hell! FML!" :cry: very, very hurtful things. One time I asked her how her day was, and she replyed saying "FML I HATE YOU HOW DARE YOU ASK ME HOW MY DAY WAS! I !@#$ING HATE YOU!" Yes she was very mean. I still cry sometimes when I think about it. :cry:


I'm sorry to hear that.... :'(
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