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Pregnant and Abused

Postby missmillierose » Fri May 21, 2010 1:51 am

Ive Been With My 'Fiancee' now for 5 years, im now expecting our first child.
Every so often, more occuring lately, he's been having these episodes in which he constatly calls me names and degrades me. Its starts off when i notice that he is upset about something, and then he starts, i go on facebook and his status'ssay things like ive forgotten how to smile and all this. It breaks my heart because i love him. He says sorry the day after its happened, and its all back to normal and niceness. But i dont know what to do, should i take him to teh doctors to sort out his problem, or should i just keep my mouth shut and hope that its ok in the morning. Ive had to cancell my 'sexing' scan today because ive broken down and i dont think that ill be any better in a few hours time.
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Re: Pregnant and Abused

Postby Chucky » Sat May 22, 2010 9:46 pm

I'm sorry to hear this. He cannot get away with doing this for much longer though. I know how people like ghim can migrate to calling the ones they love namnes (as I've done it before), but I therefore also know that it can all stop and become better. What must happen is that he is made fully aware of just how much his comments are hurting you. For now, try to picture him as being stuck in a cycle of certain [bad] behaviours. Things have to change,and you have to 'check/stop' this cycle. What I think might help is if you both sit down, and then you let him know just how much hurt you're feeling as a direct result of his name-calling.

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Re: Pregnant and Abused

Postby Shattered_Crystals » Tue May 25, 2010 9:43 pm

you may be better off leaving him. You may not be. If you leave him do not let him know where else you're living or where you're gonna be living around. If you tell other don't let it be anyone who knows you, because they may tell him and then he may track you down and continue abusing you.

I've been in abusive relationships, witnessed them occur, saw the outcomes of them. I know from all of that, that leaving him may be the best way to halt the abuse. The abuse may get worse. I think you should certainly do something about it. I regret not reporting the abuse earlier because now not that much can be done about it, unless I go to court (if what my mother said was accurate). Since the last time I was abused though occured in 2009 though, there's not much that can be done about it unless I go to court. And by now I dissociated psychologically to such an immense degree I do not even know all the details to the abuse and forgot much of the details of some of the abuse. And I was told before that at court I must TELL exactly what happened.
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